to be slightly suspicious of men who say they only like women with long hair?

(91 Posts)
FeuDeRussie Thu 22-Nov-12 10:03:36

I think it's fair enough to have certain preferences when it comes to what kind of look you like, but to say that you only like long hair on women, irrespective of whether it suits them or not, is a bit hmm IMO.

(Prompted by a friend who said today: 'sometimes I think women cut their hair too short, and it's like they're cutting off some of their beauty'...)

TheCatIsEatingIt Thu 22-Nov-12 10:13:36

Chances are he has a preference, and expressed it in a slightly exaggerated way. Maybe he's never fancied a woman with short hair; doesn't mean it couldn't happen if he met the right one.

I have a strong preference for men with long ginger hair. In idle chat, I wouldn't necessarily qualify it by saying that I have been attracted to men without that feature.

WorraLiberty Thu 22-Nov-12 10:16:46

How can you be suspicious of anyone's preference?

I prefer women with long hair too and tend not to like razor cut short hair for example.

Did the friend actually say the words "I like long hair on a woman irrespective of whether it suits them or not"?

WorraLiberty Thu 22-Nov-12 10:17:49

I meant to say I prefer long hair on women...not that I prefer women with long hair blush

Suspicious? hmm It's a preference.

FWIW I don't like short hair on 99% of women.

<shrugs>

Woozley Thu 22-Nov-12 10:18:22

My ex used to like my hair as long as possible. Guess what I did when we split? Yep, pixie cut. Didn't put DH off, though I have long hair again now.

AnnoyedAtWork Thu 22-Nov-12 10:19:30

YANBU

He is a misogynist pig

FeuDeRussie Thu 22-Nov-12 10:20:00

I'm not only thinking of my friend though - my (hugely sexist) FIL thinks this, and a couple of other men I've known in the past have thought women should have long hair, and they were both the kind of men who had fairly strong ideas about women's roles.

Felicitywascold Thu 22-Nov-12 10:20:04

I'd only be suspicious if the way they expressed that preference was suspicious.

It's fine to have a preference, quite another to 'require' it of a DW of GF iyswim.

Felicitywascold Thu 22-Nov-12 10:20:29

Xpost OP, I agree with you,

AnnoyedAtWork Thu 22-Nov-12 10:21:09

(For saying it like that, I mean, different things suit different people but "cutting off some of their beauty" is objectification )

FeuDeRussie Thu 22-Nov-12 10:21:24

Worra no he didn't say that and I think in his case he was just expressing a preference.

FeuDeRussie Thu 22-Nov-12 10:23:13

Some women look amazing with short hair and it just makes me a bit hmm if someone can't see this and only sees "short hair = unfeminine".

LilllyLovesLife Thu 22-Nov-12 10:27:27

I strongly prefer men with short hair. Would this mean you were suspicious of me too? I don't really like women's hair short either, although I know a few that it really suits. I wish I could have short hair and like it, as I can't be arsed with all the brushing etc.

WorraLiberty Thu 22-Nov-12 10:28:53

But who are you to say that because you think some women look amazing with short hair, other people should agree?

Perhaps they 'can't see it' because they don't think it.

<< Shrugs >>

scarletforya Thu 22-Nov-12 10:29:34

YABU

I only really fancy long haired men and think every man looks better with long hair (barring combovers)

It's just a preference.

FeuDeRussie Thu 22-Nov-12 10:29:44

No lillly, not if it is just a preference rather than a general belief that men should have short hair.

OwlLady Thu 22-Nov-12 10:31:00

why are you suspicious of them? that's a starnge word to use.

It's an odd thing to say, sure

Hair is dead innit

WorraLiberty Thu 22-Nov-12 10:32:24

But you've changed the story now?

If you'd started a thread saying "AIBU to be suspicious of misogynistic men who believe all women should have long hair", I'd say YANBU.

But that's not what your OP is about.

FeuDeRussie Thu 22-Nov-12 10:33:13

Maybe suspicious is too strong a word Owl - it just always makes me wonder why they just like the hair in itself, rather than the overall look of the person as an individual. As it's always come from men who I consider to be a bit inflexible in their thinking, I've started to associate the two things and wonder if there's a link.

What do you suspect about these men then? confused

I must be a right dodgy old suspect - my list of preferences about men's appearance is as long as your arm grin

FeuDeRussie Thu 22-Nov-12 10:36:48

Worra I didn't mean to make it sound like my OP was only about what my friend said. I started to describe the other times when men I know have said it but thought it would be too long. By 'prompted' I just meant that what my friend said reminded me of it so that I started the thread.

ToffeeCaramel Thu 22-Nov-12 10:44:02

I always remember there used to an american programme called "Cheaters." Where people hired private detectives to catch out people who were cheating on their spouse and one of the detectives said that he had noticed through his work that the women the men cheated with always had longer hair than the wives! I was really surprised, but it was what he had observed.

WorraLiberty Thu 22-Nov-12 10:45:53

Toffee I saw that too years ago!

I could never remember which show it was though.

FredFredGeorge Thu 22-Nov-12 10:50:13

Lots of people can look good with all sorts of features - doesn't mean it's not perfectly reasonable for someone to have a exclusive preference for a particular feature.

is "I only like women with long hair" really different to "I only like women" ? It's just a sexual preference - one is no more wrong than the other, sexual preferences, however they are formed aren't exactly something you can change or are concious.

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