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Change your status to what hoping said and then block block block....

My ex tried to add me so he could see what ds looked like he got told to either come and see his ds or fuck the fuck off!

I really don't understand why he's your friend on fb, you aren't friends, he's irritating you and annoying you and posting pointed comments.

Just delete and block.

Okay will def be deleting him, but would like to point out this is the first post of his I've actually seen he obviously doesn't use it very much so it's not like I've been sitting here for over a year looking at his posts and enjoying being annoyed by them.

Will have to have a think about wht to do about the rest of his family they really intimidate me

HAhahahaha hoping I absolutely love that, love Chris rock and its so true, always makes me think of that too. 'What d'you want a cookie?'

Personally I would get rid of him from your Facebook as he sounds like a dick. I can't see how things will improve when he has a new dd he will be constantly saying ooo I've got a new baby and even mother Theresa of Calcutta would find that annoying.

Could you keep in touch with his mother a different way and text her the odd photo?

'Dads' like that always remind me of the Chris Rock show. Paraphrased as it's from memory and cleaned up a bit

"People brag, like 'I pay for my kid, I look after my kid' like it's some great thing. You're SUPPOSED TO you dumb fuck."

It does all sound exceptionally childish to me, the whole affair. The relationship ended before you knew you were pregnant. He didn't want the baby? Don't you think it would be a whole lot simpler and better for your mental health if you minimise contact and dealings with this ex of yours? If yes then you need to delete him from facebook. Really.

Well keep his mum then.

I don't think you've done anything wrong and I totally understand why you're annoyed. I just think that, with another baby on the way, you don't need to be seeing comments from him on a daily basis. You will probably feel upset and angry when he is posting about doing things for his new child that he never did for your DD. You don't need the hassle.

And narked that's a very good point and something I've thought about. Problem is the person that will post most about the new baby is his mum and id feel bad deleting her as she loves seeing pics of dd and doesn't get to see her much

Ok I realise I would be unreasonable to actually say something so I should have worded the title differently. I did say in my op I wouldn't actually say anything And I'd absolutely never dream of ever bad mouthing him to dd. I saw it and it annoyed me. Not sure why that means I need to grow up.

Do yourself and your DD a favour and delete him from your Facebook before his new child is born.

That comment was FOR YOU.

That's why you should ignore it!

Delete him from fb and delete his brothers and his brothers' girlfriends and his sisters and his sisters' boyfriends, and his mum and his dad and his gran and his friends. Delete them.

From your daughter's pov, don't start with petty shit like this. Delete him off Facebook for a start. He will always be your daughter's dad, no matter how good or bad he is at it. You not agreeing with that should be kept private. I grew up with parents that separated when I was 3 months old. My mum was always pointing out to me my dads flaws, it only made hers stand out more and me very protective and defensive of my dad, I love him, I love her, I don't care that they aren't perfect parents, they are my parents! Let him say and think whatever he wants to, let your daughter make her own mind up.

So, a bit like my DDs "sperm doner" then, the relationship was finished, so even more of a ???? as to why you would continue contact other than to arrange visits and maintainance. You are doing yourself no favours here.

You have posted here, in your words 'a bit ranty' because you can see his opinions etc etc - block and ditch. You don't need to know what he thinks, eats, farts, posts.

Again, it isn't healthy. If you didn't have him on FB, you wouldnt be ranty would you?

It will only come up on your newsfeed if you are friends with him, actually it only comes up on your newsfeed if you have designated him as a "close" friend or soemone who's status you want to follow. So i only get status updates from people on that particular list, other stuff doesn't tend to show. Defriend him and you wont see anything unless he comments on mutual friends threads, defriend and block, keep the relationship "professional" otherwise your DD is going to be stuck in the middle if the pair of your can't grow up.

He didn't dump me when I was pregnant We had already broken up when I found out. And he's not just my ex he's my daughters dad it just never really occurred to me to delete him. I don't use it very much other than to post pics of dd for family to see. Maybe it's childish for me to see it and be annoyed by it but such is life

It came up on my news feed I don't seek him out as I'm sure he doesn't do to me. I'm not commenting on his life only his involvement or lack of with my daughter. Whatever else he does I couldn't care less about if it doesn't affect her.

It all sounds a bit childish to me, he is your EX, he dumped you when you were pregnant, WHY do you want him on your FB???? makes no sense whatsoever.

Because you are reading his FB updates, as he is probably reading yours. You're commenting on his life and opinions, he will be commenting on yours too. It isn't healthy to have that window into an EXs life, far too much involvement. Ditch and block.

YANBU, however you will never get him to admit that he is not a good dad as that would require a level of self awareness he is not capable of.

My x doesn't contribute financially to his kids, and only contacts them when he feels like it. He thinks that he is a good dad, his kids don't agree. He is in danger of losing the relationship with them altogether as they get older and realise what he is really like.

And he's on my FB because you know, I had his baby. No big deal

Ophelia how does me seeing a Facebook status of his mean we are stalking each others lives? What a strange comment

He needs a wake up call.

A few hours on a Saturday and having to fight for child support and verbally abusing his childs mum over it is not what i would call a good father