Sorry for the swears
Background: Son is in last year at Primary school, age 10.7.
Split up from son's father when son was just over a year old. Always shared responsibility, if anything, son's dad wanted s to live with him. Son stayed with me though. I changed jobs and we moved away - about an hour's drive away; Dad ostensibly accepted our moving but punished me for it with verbal abuse, on occasion. (Was mutual decision to separate, so no no residual issues - just wasn't working any more.)
Relationship with son's dad has been frequently strained, but recently better - he married a fab woman last year, whom I thought has had a calming effect.
Son and I moved back two years ago, things became difficult (I became depressed following the death of my beloved grandmother), and my grandfather's health was failing. So, we moved in with my grandfather and I looked after him until he died in July this year. Being nearer his dad has been great for my son and he is really settled.
Since my grandfather's death, I have enrolled on an Access course (which will enable me to do a nursing degree, starting September 2013). If you don't know, a nursing degree is 50% at university and 50% on placement. My son's father has wondered how I will manage placements (which could include shifts). I told him my ideas for provision for our son, and he suggested that son goes to live with him
I discussed this, in a very casual way, with son - and as I thought, he wants to stay with me and go to the secondary school where his mates will be going - and continue to see his dad as he has been - no issues with access and I'm always accommodating and encouraging their relationship.
Today, I discussed all of this with son's father and he called me a fucking bitch and a fucking cunt - for wanting to do something to improve mine and my son's life . I'm being selfish and awkward etc. etc? thinking of myself before our son
He is being a cunt, not me unreasonable, yes?
Sorry for the robotic writing style but I have found it easier to write like that.
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To think I'm not a fucking cunt for wanting to become a nurse?
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DontForgetTheLightAlesLawrence · 10/11/2012 00:09
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