to think that perhaps I am the worlds biggest twat?

(31 Posts)
Bogeyface Sun 01-Jan-12 00:05:03

Because after a year in which I was v ill due to pg and he coped with the panic of impending fatherhood by having an affair, and after other issues the year before, he was Mr Partyman earlier and is now snoring.

My friend was here and was going home to see midnight in with her OH who was at home (still) nursing a hangover from last night, and my parents were here and said in advance that they would be leaving about tennish as Dad isnt very well. So, it was known in advance that we would see the NY in just the two of us. He was Mein Host, laughing, joking, centre of attention (which he loves being) and within ten minutes of my friend leaving, he was snoring like a pig because he was pissed as a fart.

I look at him and think "this was supposed to be a sign of our new start, moving on into a new era of our marriage. What it is is you being a selfish drunken twat who doesnt care enough about me or about what you did to even stay sober enough to see the NY in with me"

I have been thinking more and more recently about this, and tonight I am really at the point where I think that perhaps I should just say "bollocks" and get a divorce. It wont be easy but atleast I wont have the piss taken out of me will I? sad

Happy New Year. Same as the last....................but atleast this year i know what situation I am in, last year I was a blissfully ignorant, although v unhappy, idiot sad

I have just texted him a video of him snoring like a pig with the NY live thing on the TV in the backgroud with the words, HAPPY NEW YEAR. Hopefully it will wake him up about 5am when it finally gets to him!

PurplePidjChickIsNotTheMessiah Tue 01-Jan-13 03:58:04

Here's your rock bottom. Use it as a firm footing to push off from.

He's the twat, you need a plan

I was a bit confused <not just cos of three large glasses of red> until I realised the start of this thread was new year 2012 and then jump to update 2013. I am so sorry bogey but I have to say Leave the Bastard.

AgentZigzagHasABigYuleLog Tue 01-Jan-13 03:05:21

Me too, and you too.

Take care <hug>

Bogeyface Tue 01-Jan-13 03:03:36

You're right, they are not as impossible as I once thought.

Tired now so off to bed, but thank you agent and I hope you have a very happy 2013 xx

AgentZigzagHasABigYuleLog Tue 01-Jan-13 03:01:00

And I imagined you fantasising about what options you have when it gets too much to focus on RL, BF.

Perhaps those things aren't as outlandish and frightening as they are when they're just thoughts and you're thinking worst case scenario.

AgentZigzagHasABigYuleLog Tue 01-Jan-13 02:54:24

Hehe, I feel smug now that although I'm pissed at least I can type kind of coherently grin

<slurs> I love you <drunkenly staggers at LPF>

Bogeyface Tue 01-Jan-13 02:50:42

Em are cuny kockrys. I font lime them tbfh

drae on hid face and put hih habg in water

Totally. Couldnt have put it better myself.

Happy New Year SP grin

Bogeyface Tue 01-Jan-13 02:49:30

Maybe it's time you started writing down the wonderings you have when you're thinking of how to get yourself out of this shit?

Look at what you can feasibly do to make you're life more content.

Thank you.

I have been known to be first in the queue with LTB, even knowing how hard it can be. What you have said makes it a much more manageable thing to do.

Thanks again x

Em are cuny kockrys. I font lime them tbfh

drae on hid face and put hih habg in water

AgentZigzagHasABigYuleLog Tue 01-Jan-13 02:36:05

Thankfully I didn't have the DDs when I was living on benefits, but it makes my blood run cold wondering how people manage on the pittance they give you when you've got shoes/food (that actually matters with vitamins and that, I used to live on beans and jacket tates (I was slimmer then grin)) and all the other million extras you really can't not buy for them.

But the strain of that on top of knowing how be betrayed you at the time when he should have been supporting you the most, would be hard for me to forgive and forget.

Maybe it's time you started writing down the wonderings you have when you're thinking of how to get yourself out of this shit?

Look at what you can feasibly do to make you're life more content.

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 01-Jan-13 02:30:50

Bogey

You can do better than him.

You deserve better than him.

Please make decisions in this very New Year that make you happy.

Bogeyface Tue 01-Jan-13 02:26:38

A year ago he was in a good job and things were more difficult.

Now he has been made redundant so surviving on benefits has been dealt with! If anything, it is easier now than it was then. And yes, I have been thinking about it sad

AgentZigzagHasABigYuleLog Tue 01-Jan-13 02:23:57

That really freaked me out seeing my post and thinking 'I don't remember posting that confused' grin

I was hoping for better news as I scrolled down.

It's so easy to say LTB on a thread, but when you're so entwined with someone else's life it's harder than you think.

Have you thought about how you might start the process of separating from this fuckwit over the past year? And I don't like to say that about someone I don't know, but just from this short thread you can see how miserable he's making you.

He shouldn't be doing that.

He should be enriching you life, noticing when you need a bit more from him, making you feel good about yourself.

Is the cost of the things you'd have to do to break up with him relative to the happiness and peace you'd feel if you did the deed?

JustAHolyFool Tue 01-Jan-13 02:10:33

You really are not the twat in this equation. He is the twat.

Make your new year's resolution for him to be someone else's problem.

benbobaggins Tue 01-Jan-13 02:09:30

You're not a twat, he's the twat...

My very first LTB, you deserve better

Bogeyface Tue 01-Jan-13 02:02:56

UPdate

This New Year was actually worse than the last. I have supported him through redundancy, ill health and life in general.

What I got back was a drunken abusive arse.

I really am the twat as I am still here, one year on sad

Not next year though. I am not doing this shit again.

travellingwilbury Sun 01-Jan-12 01:39:09

Bogey I know nothing of your back story but I have to ask do you even like this man never even mind love him ?

AgentZigzag Sun 01-Jan-12 01:22:26

I saw this posted somewhere recently on here, can't for the life of me remember where.

It's for emailing a reminder to yourself about something.

Every time he's an arse, email yourself, and get them to all turn up at the same time.

Gathering a few of them together might help you make up your mind about whether to go or stay?

McPie Sun 01-Jan-12 01:17:23

He is an arse! Good luck and take care x

He's the twat, not you.

My Ex-P also coped with impending and early stages of fatherhood by risking further impregnation of other women!

I've been on my own with DS now for 6 years, I'm happier than I was then. grin Not easy but you can do it if that's what you do want.

LOVE the text. Second you tube.

TheCrunchUnderfoot Sun 01-Jan-12 01:04:51

Ach, I think you know what you need to do. And I reckon you can do it, and prosper. Happy new year - and good luck x

GypsyMoth Sun 01-Jan-12 01:00:02

Read your recent threads, I feel for you. Take care.x

olgaga Sun 01-Jan-12 00:54:48

Bogey, I'd definitely pick you. The video idea was brilliant!

Happy new year, whatever you decide.

RaPaPaPumPumBootyMum Sun 01-Jan-12 00:46:47

God, what a knobhead.

I hope you have a fabulous 2012 Bogey, whatever may come your way and whatever decisions you ultimately make...

XX

Bogeyface Sun 01-Jan-12 00:35:00

THanks guys smile xx

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