I've not name changed for this (may be a brave or stupid mistake I don't know at this point), so please be kind.
DP has end stage renal failure. He currently has dialysis three times a week late in the evenings and he works full time Monday to Friday 9-5. I think he is amazing for doing this. He has had periods of being very unwell due to RF, and has spent several periods of time in ICU.
We discussed the possibility of him being a SAHD but he was off for about three months due to illness and didn't think he could keep up with our two DC's (one of whom has a serious medical condition). He decided to go back to work as it is easier and I have always admired his determination to continue working.
Anyway, I do everything at home and with the children (and all of the medical stuff with DS ) and we are both happy with this arrangement. DP generally spends most of Saturday in bed recovering from illness and exhaustion from his week.
He has had RF for a fair few years now and he has gotten worse. He is generally unwell most of the time
he is at home. And I'm sick of it. I don't blame him for being ill - I'm not evil FGS. But he doesn't take care of himself properly when he is working and he is always frustrated by how little he sees the children and that he doesn't have any energy for them when he is around.
Because of how frequently he visits hospital he is always picking up D&V bugs too, many of these are passed onto the children, and he is constantly complaining of a variety of different symptoms i.e. Fidgety leg syndrome, sickness, headaches, general crappiness (he on occasion has heart problems and breathing difficulties too).
And well quite honestly I'm sick of it. I spend all weekend nursing him back to health for work on Monday, and I do everything I can to help him during the week. I love him dearly but seeing him neglect himself for his career, whilst killing himself in the process, is grating on me. I know he can't and more importantly won't give up his career, but at the same time, we as his family just get an exhausted, overworked, unwell DP (and dad). And I know I am being a horrid bitch but I'm losing sympathy for him (and I resent the fact that we never get any 'good' DP time).
How can I stop myself feeling this way towards DP, whom I care so much for? And how much of a completely unreasonable bitch am I being?
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ReindeerBollocks · 03/01/2011 20:59
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herbietea ·
04/01/2011 21:12
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