Hi, Feeling really fed up at the moment and need advice.
I had a beautiful cat for 10 years since she was a 6 week old kitten. She was like my little baby, slept with me, followed me everywhere, was so loyal, was with me through illness keeping me company and was the most affectionate and funny cat i could ever have wished for. Then in January out the blue (after her never ever being ill) took her to the vets for her annual check and they felt a lump and by the next day, she'd been diagnosed with lymphoma and within a month she was dead! I have never been so heartbroken in my life or felt pain like it and whenever i think of that time i'm just in tears all over again.Swore i would never get another cat as never wanted to go through anything like that again. It's been so hard as well as feel can't say anything to anyone as they might think 'It's just a cat' or that i should be over it by now.
Anyway onto the problem my husband and kids kept on and on about getting another cat and i was adamant No way! My husband was going on about it for my sake as he thought it would help me to have something to love again and come back to and kids were so upset and he persuaded me it would be good for them and apart from that he said there are so many cats needing a good home and we could give them one (which is what swung it for me more). However i kept saying what if the do this and that and was thinking of all the worst case scenarios as felt we were so lucky with our other cat and literally never had one problem with her but know that all cats are different and with getting rescue cats you don't know what they've been through so i keep saying 'Are we prepared for everything', but they were all adamant that it would be fine.
So along we went to the rescue centre and fell in love with one of the cats and then the centre said that cat had to be re-homed with it's Mum and we couldn't have one without the other so we ended up taking both! They are really lovely cats, gentle and sweet and follow us around, still very nervous but thats understandable. They have settled in really well and seem happy. However i'm not!!
They keep me awake most nights either charging up and down the stairs playing making so much noise (think they feel more comfortable then because everyone's in bed). Or their fighting, or go in the kids room and starts pulling toys out boxes or knocking things off shelves! I am sooo tired i can't cope i'm up and down all through the night telling them off, moving things away. I know i could maybe lock them in the kitchen but obvioulsly wouldn't want to do that forever so there's no point really and also i did it once just to get some sleep and could hear them scratching and crying so felt horrible (and still didn't sleep).
On top of that they do not stop scratching the carpets which is driving me insane!! No matter how many times we tell them 5 minutes later their doing it again. And it's all through the night too which is another thing that keeps me awake! It took us 8 years to get our house decorated and carpeted finally the way we want it and now it's just getting ruined. Feel so upset as know we can not afford to replace it (and whats the point if they just do it again anyway) but there are completely bald patches now around the doors and today i came back and one right in middle of living room carpet). They've got scratching posts and loads of toys but they just want to do that! They stop when we tell them but were not here all the time and we just come back to bits of ripped up carpets!
Also they even go outside and come in to use cat litter!! Then throw it everywhere and then go back outside!! Grrr!!
So i am just so fed up so would welcome any ideas! They've been here 2 months now and i have not slept well at all! Feel like i hadn't finished grieving for my other cat and then got these two thinking i was doing a good thing and it's just caused me more work and upset. Feel like got so much from my old cat and just feel resentful of these two. Would never ever give them away because i think once you get them their yours and you have to cope and also they've already been through so much so would never put them through anything else so now feel like i'm stuck with them. I do really like them and if i could sort out these couple of things it would be fine! Sorry for massive post!
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BooksandCats · 24/04/2013 09:58
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