Options for our poor cat.....can't deal with this any more

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shushpenfold Thu 14-Feb-13 03:05:57

We have a 5 yo cat - one of two litter sisters who until the last year has been fine (a little 'odd' at times) but essentially fine. She has over the last year though taken to weeing (and occasionally pooing) in a very obvious demonstration of her dislike of us being out of the house. It started with only doing it when we were away, but is now regular and generally coincides with when we return to the house - it is over our personal items.....coats, bags, gym kit, dirty washing, plain washing, clean ironing, sofas, chairs....the list goes on. She miaows plaintively a great deal, eats too much (if we try to take it away she rips up cupboards and bread bins to try and get to food and then wees even more) and is now fighting with her sister far more.....she seems to be the non-dominant, even though the vet advises me that the fatter ones are usually dominant. Her sister is very slim. They are a Bengal cross and the vet has advised me that they sometimes do have some pretty major behavioural issues. We work and are out of the house from 7.15am to 6pm every day, including Saturdays.

I'm at the end of my tether now and am ashamed to say that I can't cope with the behaviour any more, despite the fact that we love her and that the kids love her very much too. She is quite clearly as miserable as sin.

I've tried, on vets advice, Feliway (the last weeing was 3 feet from a plug in), more 'playtime', locking out of more rooms (difficult in our house as we have a lack of doors!) and she has now said that our last hope is a behaviourist. Has anyone experience of whether this will work? If it is going to need serious time input, I can't do that with work. sad

shushpenfold Tue 19-Feb-13 19:14:19

LOL - yes, pissing cat is how ours is referred to regularly at the moment!!!

shushpenfold Sun 24-Feb-13 17:31:15

You lovely people you!!!!!!! We've come back from a weekend away and no wee or poo anywhere. We put out 2 litter trays, closed all upstairs doors, the 2 'offending' room doors where she normally goes and there is nothing....not even sure that they've used the litter trays, even though one of it looks ratched through. Relief xxx

Fluffycloudland77 Sun 24-Feb-13 18:16:49

Phew! Is she a happier cat now?

shushpenfold Sun 24-Feb-13 18:20:08

She seems much happier than the last time we came back smile Strangely enough, the other cat also seems better in that she had lost weight recently (the vet thought because of a flea allergy and over grooming) and seems heavier and also far fluffier...hair coming back at a rate of knots! Can't tell you how lovely it was to not have to clear up wee.....(sighs)

Fluffycloudland77 Sun 24-Feb-13 18:23:57

I've just hung up curtains that the cat has pissed on 4 times now. They are dry clean only.

Little bugger wees if he sees another cat. Apparently he ought to be the only cat in the village.

shushpenfold Sun 24-Feb-13 19:24:39

I feel your pain......(has visions of spiderman-like cat clinging to curtains whilst weeing!!)

Have you tried a microchip cat flap? They definitely helped our two when we had other cats hanging around as the other cats would head butt to get in but when our two realised that they couldn't shift the door, they would almost visibly relax.

Fluffycloudland77 Sun 24-Feb-13 20:11:18

They don't come in he just sees them out of the window and won't let it go.

I have the problem of him trying to break out more than them coming in.

Great news Shushpenfold - and certainly cheaper/easier than getting a cat whisperer in smile And Fluffy I know exactly how you feel. One of my cats, when he feels stressed by the other cats (which seems to be a lot of the time) likes to wee/spray on all sorts of things, but preferably electrical things - camera/mobile/the toaster and any sort of socket - preferably while something is plugged into it. It's a wonder he's still alive.

shushpenfold Mon 25-Feb-13 07:19:16

Gosh Fluffy...that's really difficult....could he be an outdoor cat instead? I'm thinking of the psychology treatment of 'flooding'.... like putting spider phobics in a room full of long leggy beasties and when they realise that they're not dead at the end of it, they're better with them! Hopefully he wouldn't get beaten up on the first visit outside...

Fluffycloudland77 Mon 25-Feb-13 19:24:17

He's an outdoor cat, he's a bengal.

It's not him I worry about when he's out. It's the other cats.....

shushpenfold Tue 26-Feb-13 06:34:51

Sorry - was being daft....I see what you mean now. How annoying!

cozietoesie Tue 26-Feb-13 11:37:11

No need to be sorry shushpenfold. You weren't to know that Fluffycloudland is Mom to debilcat.

grin

Fluffycloudland77 Tue 26-Feb-13 18:17:54

Actually it's ASBO cat. grin

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