I actually got my other cat to keep her company...the dog had cancer, I was supposed to be working full time shortly and a neighbour had kittens she was trying to get rid of, so I took one...it wasn't my brightest idea, they're ok now, but that took a long time.
I also got a puppy (2 years after the dog died, and I'm not working full time, lol) and I thought she'd not be bothered as he'd lived with a dog all her life, wrong again.
Poor thing wants nothing more than my undivided attention and I keep foisting this other animals on her.
She is very easily stressed anyway - and that's a massive amount of change, mine would be obviously upset by all that going on.
Like I said, I'd start at the vets to rule out other causes and then just give her time and lots of affection.
I'm reasonably versed in Siamese, mum, having had a long line of Siamese boys. tabulah as well (if I recall) has a Siamese girl. My gut feeling, particularly if she exhibits Siamese traits, is that it's probably stress, knowing that if any of my Siamese boys had had to go through what she's gone through they'd have been extremely disturbed. She's got some good yeoman stock to help her out but still - it's been a lot for a wee cat.
Unfortunately, over-grooming (if that's what it is - and it likely is) can become compulsive behaviour even though the initial stressor(s) may have passed but you really do need to get her vet-checked just to ensure that she has no underlying medical conditions.
Then pop back and we'll maybe suggest some additional strategies. If she's very Siamese-y, it may in fact be that she doesn't need space as you understandably thought but additional closeness to a person. Let's see.
She does eat seperately to the other cats, she is the only one to use a litter tray (which is only really at night or in bad weather now) She has a radiator bed which is off the ground and is solely hers. The older cats hate them so don't go near it! She does take herself off upstairs or on top of the computer when she needs a bit of 'time-out' Does it sound as though I'm doing enough to provide the peace and space she needs? is there anything else I can do?
So sorry for your loss, and hers. It isn't surprising she is overgrooming given the stressful year she has had. The loss of her person and the move of house will have been extremely stressful for her, but while she may always miss your son, time will heal these things for her. Likewise the trauma of the spay will fade. Getting to know other cats can also be very stressful even when these cats are quite tolerant (and bear in mind aggression between cats can be very subtle - even just staring can be the equivalent of fisty-cuffs for them), especially for cats which have previously only lived with people. You can make this easier on her by making sure she has places she can hide, both dark holes and high retreats, and also by making sure she can avoid the other cats for food and toiletting needs. One more litter tray and food bowl than there are cats is a good rule of thumb, and ideally these should all be in separate rooms (otherwise you may as well just have one). Even though she doesnt have toiletting problems, it will reduce her stress to have an option.
There are several products on the market that may ease her stress and ease the transition - although they cannot bring back what she has lost they may still be of use. Kalm-Aid, Feliway and Zylkene are all worth a go, and all can be bought over the counter or online. It is probably worth getting a vet to look at her, but the most likely cause given the other things that have happened is stress. Hope you both have a better year in 2013
Hi Does anyone have any experience of their cat over-grooming? I think that our little cat is doing this. She has developed balding patches along her spine, there is no sign of fleas, mites etc. She has not had a different type of food or been in contact with any chemicals as far as we know. She isn't distressed in anyway although she isn't keen on being handled by anyone other than me.
She has been through a difficult time this year, my son (her proper person) killed himself and she was alone with him for 3/4 days until he was discovered. So she has lost her primary person, moved house, been spayed and had to get used to 3 older cats. (they are very good and tolerant of her)
She is eating well, enjoys going outside to play, is using her litter tray as normal. She has a dedicated place that is all hers to sleep, eats separately to the others so isn't stressed by mealtimes.