Hi everyone
I've always known I wanted to have a dog - If i could I'd live in a big rickety old house and run a doggy rescue . Have been thinking about getting a dog for a few years now in vague and dreamy terms but finally I have started to feel that the time is right and I've built up the confidence to embark on it. I am a lone parent to two girls aged 14 and 17, so no little kiddies in the house. I do have a partner but we aren't living together yet as it hasn't worked out for either of us to move. He comes over almost every weekend and sometimes for a night or two in the week.
I am a bit of a worrier and can be quite neurotic about getting things 'right' so I am going to have to guard against becoming overwhelmed emotionally by the enormity of taking on another little life. So I thought that if I spend some time here in the doghouse I will build up a foundation of knowledge and understanding that will help me to be prepared.
First, my rationale for thinking it's the right time:
Mainly, it's a feeling, like things are 'right' and I am ready. It almost feels like something I have to do, like there's a piece missing from the puzzle of my family. I'm happy and content in all respects, but it'd be nice to have an extra little ball of energy to love and care for
I work part-time three afternoons and one full day during the week, and have one day off. Don't work weekends, so I have a good amount of time to focus on the dog. On part time days would be home with the dog every morning till lunch time, then my daughter gets back from school about half three, so doggy would only be alone for a couple of hours. On full work day I can come home for lunch to see doggy. This seems quite a good set-up to me, what do you all think?
I may at some point be doing the whole baby thing again as my partner doesn't have children and really wants to be a daddy. My instinct is that it would be much better for me and doggy if I have time to focus entirely on him or her for a while without trying to be mummy to a baby or toddler as well. I'm not good with juggling too many demands at once and I would like doggy to be nicely settled into our family long before a possible baby comes into the picture, so I can tackle the two things seperately IYSWIM.
We live in a lovely market town with nice places to walk. I love being out in the fresh air and relish the thought of having a dog to force me to get out every day come rain or shine. My partner and I love to go out for walks anyway, so taking doggy along would be no bother. We are not big holidaying people so won't need to worry about leaving doggy (although I am planning on getting a caravan down the line but of course doggy will come along when we go camping).
I guard against thinking of it all in terms of perfect idyll and cuteness and so on - I know it will be hard work. I know it will take commitment and that things will seem relentless for a while. I do think that i will have what it takes to be a good doggy owner - I have a background in childcare and am very good with toddlers, which I think will translate into an ability to be cuddly but firm with a little puppy/teenager doggy
My plan would be to try to get doggy in for the beginning of summer holidays so that the girls will be home every day and doggy would have lots of company even while I'm at work.
Really I don't know what advice I'm looking for, maybe just some words of welcome to the club and any impressions you might have from what I've written here.
The doggy I'm looking to get is a dachshund
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HolgerDanske · 23/01/2013 09:43
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