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OK to leave them alone together or should I cancel?

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Cubix · 13/09/2008 21:13

I have 2 boys aged 15 and 24. Youngest is an angel, eldest is a bit of a rebel/lovable rouge

Anyway I have had a trip planned and booked for months, the idea was that I would leave them alone...24 year old in charge as I know DS2 would be no trouble anyway.

As it turns out, DS1 has been invited on a camp at the same time so it was just DS1 who was to be left here on his own...all fine.

But then there was a family crisis and my neice has come to stay with us. She has nowhere else to live so will be here for the foreseeable future. She is 16 and has gotten herself into all sorts of trouble with underage drinking/drugs/behaviour....

Now the question is, can I trust DS1 to look after her? DS1 is not the most sensible of lads and this is what is worrying me. He's insisting it will be fine and that I should go, she is too but they both seem very eager for me to leave them.

Should I cancel or trust them?

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Cubix · 13/09/2008 21:14

Sorry that is, DS2 has been invited on camp, not ds1

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SquiffyHock · 13/09/2008 21:17

I hate to say it but I wouldn't risk it, mainly because you say your niece has had drink/drug issues in the past.
When I was a teenager, that scenario would have definately resulted in a party which is fine but a hard call for you when your DN is in your care.
Do you have a neighbour who could call in daily or is there anywhere else your niece could stay?

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Cubix · 13/09/2008 21:21

My neighbours are too old to deal with it really and nobody else will have her unfortunately. Not that I mind her being here, I just really don't want to have to cancel.

I should be able to trust a 24 year old but I know he's easily pursuaded to be daft and she can be quite manipulative.

Another worry I have, rightly or wrongly, is that they sometimes seem a little 'too' close. I don't know if its my imagination/paranoia or what. The other night I heard a commotion downstairs and so got out of bed to see what was going on (it was 11.30) and they were wrestling/playfighting on the living room floor!

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SquiffyHock · 13/09/2008 21:44

I think you should trust your gut instinct on this and I think you know that already
Could she come with you?

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