I would like to book our family holiday. Dh & dd1 (16) are very keen - it's a week in the French Alps in August, 5 star hotel, really good deal. We have never had a family holiday in the school summer holidays (tend to go Easter / May / October as it's cheaper).
Just been talking to dd2 about it, and she basically said that no matter what holiday we chose, she wouldn't want to come. She would rather go on holiday with her friends (she hasn't been offered a holiday with friends). She is like this at the moment - spending time with family is painful, she only wants to be with her friends.
My gut feeling is to book the holiday anyway, tell her it's hard luck and she'll have to lump it, and hope that once we're there she will actually enjoy it (even if she doesn't show that she is). But part of me feels that it's a lot of money to spend on a holiday where one of the travellers will make it clear she doesn't want to be there.
I don't really want the 3 of us to go without her - to my mind that is just encouraging the "moving away" from the family that she is doing.
I don't think you're being too harsh. I'd simply point out that she go on holiday with her friends in a few years time. We have taken DC's friends away for the odd weekend which was nice and they enjoyed it, but we're having the opposite problem really - we keep thinking our older kids won't want to come with us and they still do! They are 17 and 19...
We are in similar position with our children. 10 YO DD is fine but 14 YO DS is moody, stroppy and only wants to be with friends. For the last couple of years we've teamed up with 2 other families and all went away together - it really worked. Kids were with friends and so amused themselves meaning adults could relax.
secretscwirrels when we go on holiday in the summer the DCs will be 22,20 and 16. Last year we had a bit of dithering about camping in France but no hesitation this year as its three weeks in California!
Yup, she definitely goes with you and if she sulks, don't give her any spending money. We as a family choose how we each get to spend one day doing something that we want. So DS1 can choose her day but if DS2 is sulking, then she doesn't get to choose. End of.