DSs - 17 and 21 - giving me hell. Youngest rarely off computer - so revision is up the spout - certainly an addiction which we are attempting to deal with - it is serious and he is socially very, very isolated. Older DS on hol from Uni - playing a particularly nasty blame game.
Giving me hell about brother and the upset he is causing instead of helping us by eg taking brother out - helping to ease the tension - anything. He himself has made life difficult by not working over past couple of so years and thus finding himself in financial difficulty at Uni - we are having to pick up the tabs with eg his rent and often day to day expenses.
This evening has been hell on earth. DS 21 came down only to rant at me about having bought - (yes, it was stupid of me but DS 17 plied and plied the pressure and I was at a weak point) the computer for him in the first place - about being anxious about money - about turning lights off - about, about, about - he was very harsh indeed. Even smashed a cup ... after DH had bought boys take-away (they wouldn't go out for a meal en famille) and they'd eaten it in their rooms.
Younger DS went early to bed - unhappy - won't talk to us.
Older DS then asked for more money (his birthday today - god, what a day) - and yet another lift to a friend's where he'll spend the night.
DH has lost his job recently and I'm left having to put in more hours and work my socks off. I am so tired - tired of all the work - tired of impossible family life - tired of DSs barely speaking to me (one cos of his computer obsession - the other cos he's very angry with me) - tired of DH being perfectly nice to me but unable to say 'No - no money till you make it up to Mum' - 'till you help around the house' .... 'till you treat this place a bit like a home rather than a hotel where you're permanently cross with the proprietor.'
Would have liked a break before going back to work next week but can't afford it - really, really tired. The boys can't see it or they don't care. It's not like me to whinge at all - I'm usually very stoic - but most of all, I want the love and light to come back into this family. (Seen the post about 'Be the change you want to see in your kids' - will think long and hard about that - but I'd like to think that they actually want me in their lives at all - )
Sorry, so long - any words of support, encouragement, advice would be welcome.
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CerysBore · 02/01/2013 23:01
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