My 17 year old son - worried.

(26 Posts)
PatrickDad Sun 30-Dec-12 13:04:20

My son is 17 and does almost nothing but sit in his room playing games on his laptop. He almost never has contact with friends. He went to the cinema a couple of weeks ago which was the first time in weeks. He never uses his mobile phone - no texts, no calls, in fact it's never even charged up. He doesn't listen to music or have any interests.

He doesn't seem depressed - he eats ok and seems fairly cheerful. He does a Saturday job in a charity shop which he has stuck at for the past year as part of Duke of Edinburgh.

He has recently been kicked out of 6th form because he was literally doing NO revision or homework at all. So now he is at home doing nothing. He is quite intelligent and can be articulate and personable when he wants to be. But he is making no effort to find work or a training course.

He has a non-identical twin brother who is the opposite and is doing well will his A levels and is quite sociable and outgoing.

I don't know how to approach this. We have tried taking a tougher line in the past (eg about homework) but it just makes him withdraw. Has anyone else been in this situation?

CaHoHoHootz Sat 05-Jan-13 23:04:24

I would try and get him involved in deciding what he is going to do next. Take him to see career advisors, local colleges, job centre anything and everything. I would tell hi you don't mind what he does but that he isn't allowed to do nothing. That would be non negotionable. confused Once he is busy, hopefully, the rest of his life will fall into place.
Teens are allowed a 'hiccup', being chucked out of college is quite a big one but it doesn't mean he can't get back on track one way or another. If he takes a few years longer than others it doesn't really matter.
I know he should organise things himself but he wouldn't be the first teen who still needs his parents guidance and action.

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