Anyone else's teen not made it to school/college today?

(56 Posts)
flow4 Mon 19-Nov-12 09:22:47

I'm feeling a bit fed up and frustrated. My DS hasn't made it to college this morning. He overdid it at the weekend, basically. sad When I checked to see why he wasn't up at 7:15 he said he was "feeling ill". hmm Of course he is bloody feeling ill: that's what happens when you get wrecked at the weekend and don't get enough sleep! To my mind, you just have to push on through...

This is the first time he has done this since he started his course in Sept. But he did it often last year, so I am fretting a bit about him slipping back into bad habits. I'm guessing this is quite normal teenage behaviour, and colleges must be used to it and not at all convinced by teenagers who are coincidentally always poorly on Mondays but it would be reassuring to hear from other parents whose teens are also still in bed!

flow4 Mon 19-Nov-12 12:05:28

Just mine then... sad

Myliferocks Mon 19-Nov-12 12:07:32

My 16 yr old DD only has lessons at college in the afternoon on Monday but she hasn't made it in today.
She's laid out on the sofa struggling with her endometriosis.

flow4 Mon 19-Nov-12 13:16:31

Thanks for replying, Mylife smile
Endometriosis is real poorliness, not hungover-poorliness sad
I hope your DD feels better soon.

ExitPursuedByABrrrrrrr Mon 19-Nov-12 13:18:11

MaryZ has a support thread going for people with teenagers.

<helpful>

Myliferocks Mon 19-Nov-12 13:45:21

I'm lucky in that DD doesn't drink alcohol.
On the other hand she will stay up until goodness knows what time on the computer and reading her Kindle.
I dread to think what time she goes to sleep most nights.
She gets up for college just fine but when she comes home she falls asleep for a couple of hours and then is wide awake and the vicious circle continues.
Kids! grin

flow4 Mon 19-Nov-12 13:47:30

Yeah, thanks Exit, I'm already on it smile It's getting long though, and since this whole board is called 'Teenagers' I thought I'd post separately...

That sounds like me, Mylife! grin

Myliferocks Mon 19-Nov-12 13:49:56

I seem to worry more about her more now than when she was younger!
I wouldn't mind but she is the eldest of 5 so I will be going through all this again!
At least I know where the younger ones are most of the time!

ExitPursuedByABrrrrrrr Mon 19-Nov-12 13:51:21

Sorry Flow4 - I only dipped in during the early days and haven't been back since - though it is usually near the top of my Threads I'm On.

flow4 Mon 19-Nov-12 14:21:28

smile Exit. Yes, it's busy!
Mylife - Five? FIVE?! > swoons <

Myliferocks Mon 19-Nov-12 17:54:24

How's your DS feeling now flow4?

grin

brighterfuture Mon 19-Nov-12 18:39:50

I got a text from the school to say my DS didn't turn up for his first lesson of the day. I'd almost rather he was lying on the sofa playing ill ... at least that way I'd know where he was !

MaureenMLove England Mon 19-Nov-12 18:47:47

Mine tried to avoid school! She text me to say, 'I'm really hurting and I don't think I can make it up that hill.' She does have a hip problem, so I'm sure she was hurting a lot, but she just needs to learn to take tablets and walk on it and it eases up!

I suggested, she smiled sweetly at DH to give her a lift! She arrived at school, albeit grumpy, but she made it! grin

Monday sickness, is NOT an option in my house. Especially if you've had a heavy weekend!

AtiaoftheJulii Mon 19-Nov-12 18:57:22

Haven't been on here all day, but my dd2 didn't go to school. She "felt sick" - I.e. was even more miserable than usual. I, can't argue with her when she seems so fragile. Have emailed her school today to ask if she can drop her 13th (! Rolls eyes) GCSE and persuaded her to email this local free teen-counselling service, so that's positive, I guess.

BackforGood Mon 19-Nov-12 23:21:08

Mine does make it out of the house, just never on time sad.
We wake him, but I can't physically shift him - he's bigger and heavier than me. I'd love to know what the answer is.

flow4 Mon 19-Nov-12 23:30:10

Yup, that's exactly the problem I have Backfor - he is 6 inches taller than me and much stronger... There is no way I can get him out of bed if he doesn't want to get out.

Mylife, so kind of you to ask... grin DS 'recovered' around 11:30 am and went to his mate's house. His last comments to me before he left were "What's your problem?" hmm and when I told him I was annoyed and disappointed he hadn't made it to college, he said "Look, I did overdo it at the weekend. It's no big deal. It's one day in half a term. It doesn't mean I'm gonna drop out or anything". hmm

Little so-and-so has an answer for everything!

brighterfuture Tue 20-Nov-12 07:57:21

flow your Ds's comments could have come straight out of my Ds's mouth. I hope he got up and out ok this morning !

TheNebulousBoojum Tue 20-Nov-12 08:02:17

'We wake him, but I can't physically shift him - he's bigger and heavier than me. I'd love to know what the answer is.'

Recovery position. Start rolling him and keep rolling until he's on the floor in a heap.
Occasionally I go back and he's asleep on the floor, but that usually wakes him up.smile
He makes it to college on time, usually with a lump of something for breakfast in his fist.

Ungratefulchild Tue 20-Nov-12 08:07:19

Mine went in yesterday (well I think he did, I dropped him off outside the college) but that was the first Monday in 5 weeks! Same issue, always ill on a Monday. Not convinced he'll get there today, not sure what time he got in last night. He doesn't start until 11 this morning so here's hoping....

flow4 Tue 20-Nov-12 08:07:55

He's in the shower right now, brighter, so the outlook is good smile

Nebulous, I'm pretty sure that approach would provoke physical violence... sad

MaryZezItsOnlyJustNovember Tue 20-Nov-12 09:42:18

Morning all.

ds missed two days last week because he decided to stay at home and "catch up".

He just went out and got stoned. He has postponed all his assignments and tomorrow is the last day. He went in today, but I don't see how he can get everything finished tonight.

It's so depressing. I want so much to give him a kick up the arse, but I know he wants me to, so he can lose his temper, stamp out, and blame me. Either way, it will be all my fault - either for not reminding him, or for nagging him.

I think I'll go back to bed and get up on Monday.

Ungratefulchild Tue 20-Nov-12 09:47:49

I so get you Mary, that is exactly what it is like in this house.

Just about to go upstairs and wake him up....

flow4 Tue 20-Nov-12 10:27:44

My DS got up and went out on time this morning, but I got a call an hour later to say he was on his way home because he'd forgotten he didn't have to be in this morning! He's just come in and he's stomped upstairs in a terrible mood. sad

Do you know what the worst thing is, from my point of view? Tuesday is the only day in the week when he's in college and I'm not at work - it is the one day when I don't have to deal with him or work. There have only been half-a-dozen of these 'free' days in the past 2 years, but ohhh I like them. I feel cheated now.

flow4 Tue 20-Nov-12 10:31:54

How did you get on, Ungrateful? > crosses fingers <

Maryz, when my DS says "It's your fault", I tend to say "I know, I'm dreadful aren't I? I think you should see if you can get someone else to be your mum..." Have you tried that one?! grin

Ungratefulchild Tue 20-Nov-12 10:50:30

I understand that feeling too flow

Well I got on spectacularly badly. Cajoled etc but then it turns out he's been chucked off his course. Nothing wrong with his work but his attendance was poor and he missed an assignment. He was told about it yesterday but it actually happened a couple of weeks ago. That's a year of funding lost.

I'm not sure that they've followed correct procedures as he's had no letters etc?

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