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Hello everyone, new to this forum and need some advice about my 15 year old daughter who has recently started to buy and wear leggings that appear to be very transparent (and some occasions they appear to look more like tights) Not up on all the current fashion trends of teen girls at the moment but when I pointed out to her she just told me that lots of girls her age do this. I just feel it will attract the wrong sort of attention, paticulary from males. She's even wearing them when she is out shopping with myself and I can't help feeling that she is drawing too much attention to herself for the sake of attention. It wouldn't be so bad if she wore a long enough top or if it was a party she was going to I could be more approving. At the same time, I don't want to say what she can and can't wear. Is there any other mums on here who can relate to this situation and what do you think? I'd like to hear your views.

At the same time, I don't want to say what she can and can't wear.

Why not? she is 15 and you are the Mummy.

I just say to mine "do you know, I can see your pants through those so everyone else will be able to as well". Cheapy ones are rubbish though, can you just buy her some better quality ones?

I have done, she still wear those as well but more often the not, opts for the see through ones.

I think if you protest too much about something then they will rebel / ignore you.

Given that they are cheap see through leggings, I reckon they will probably fall apart in the wash and then could be replaced with better quality not see through leggings

Weeeeelllllll...........I was in the park the other day wondering whether I should just smirk at all the other mums in their see-through leggings or tell them. Wasn't sure if they knew as there were so many of them.

I came to my own conclusion that perhaps they were just cheap ones from Primark or somewhere that everyone had bought and that they didn't realise they were see through when stretched over rumps.

Is it really a fashion thing, or did some people do it and teenagers have mistaken an error for fashion?

Just remove the see through ones from her wardrobe so she can't wear them! Worked for me

I make dd wear two pairs at a time. It works

Yes, you're her mother and you can tell her that they are see through (has she actually noticed?) and that you do not want her to wear them.

Arguing about dress standards is a good way of using up rebellious energy, so it does not need to spill out into other areas.

I wouldn't say anything to her about "the wrong sort of attention" though (even though teen boys may have yet to learn that clothing isn't a failsafe indicator of any particular issue, and so might be boorish). Just tell her it looks dreadful.

This is a weird one - I see these a lot on female students at the university where I work. You can see everything and I mean everything. I can't believe they don't realise they are exposing their fannies to the world?

Far too many grown women wear these. Why?
I would accidentally tear them when they came out of the washer, but I am evil.

When my DS wears his trousers down his bottom so his pants are visible, I tend to say something like "Oh it's so good your bum is joining us today!" It doesn't stop him, but at least he can't pretend he doesn't realise or that people won't notice... Perhaps you could try something similar?

Tell her to ask the question on Style and Beauty and see what response she gets

'See thro leggings are fine with a short top, no'?

Yes, I'm sure that the see through ones are a lot more fragile and keep splitting in the wash so have to be chucked. Pity. Good job she has some of the others instead in her drawer

Maybe you should try them on with a bright pair of pants and invite her opinion. Make sure you mention that you are thinking of getting a pair!

DD1s are in the house lounge wear only. Hers are M&S angel ones not cheap

DD is reasonably curvy and wouldnt wear leggings without a long top a mini skirt anyway.

Buy your DD a nice pair of denim shorts and decline a lift anywhere if you can see her pants.

In the bin , they keep falling apart in the washing machine.
Unfortunately that keeps happening to my 15yo dd's sheer tops

compared with the amount of teens i saw today in denim shorts and bum cheeks showing (1st bit of sun we have all year and they are out in full force) it seems pretty mild my concern in comparison. Perhaps I am overly worrying but that's our duty as parents. saying that though, she may as well have her bare bum out when she goes for the thong underneath. Which isn't all that often thankfully. It's one thing girls boxers showing but too much for me when it's the thong on show. hmmm

Buy her some ENORMOUS pants to wear underneath?

Does she have a younger brother who can be trained to say "if I wanted to see your knickers I'd have bought you dinner"?

Oh god this is awful isn't it? My dsd tried to buy a pair when we were out shopping once, swayed her to the better quality ones luckily.

If you have a good relationship. Then I'd tell her, if not, I'd have a washing machine that has suddenly developed a legging ripping fault.

Ripping fault it is then. Got to be cruel to be kind.

I would say 'if you're going to wear leggings as trousers, you need some thicker ones, because I can basically see what you had for breakfast in those'. I try not to be too critical and dictatorial about clothes, but I do say if I think something's actually indecent!

If you are anywhere near an Asda they have just brought out a pair of thicker leggings for autumn/winter - they are still stretchy but are thicker and not see through at all, they have them in a few different designs and styles from £6 - I got some plain black ones as I was sick of the sheer ones constantly ripping - these are like a mix between a thick wooly tight and a legging - I was discussing this at the weekend as a few friends had normal ones on and they all commented on how mine we're not see through and theirs all were and they all had little nips, rips and ladder-type-issues.

Worth a try