I'm Mother of the Bride and I hate Mother of the Bride outfits

(56 Posts)
KristinaM Mon 11-Mar-13 21:35:31

Title says it all really. I've looked at hundreds on line, they are all shiny taffeta, pastel chiffon or floral . Its not my style - I like simple but dramatic shapes in bold colours. On the very odd occasion when I get dressed up.

Wedding is in May, a civil ceremony in a country house hotel. I don't have to match or avoid any colours ( apart from white or black obviously ) . I don't even need to wear a hat or a fascinator grin

I'm a size 10, 5'5". Reasonable budget. It should be easy. Sigh

EuroShaggleton Tue 12-Mar-13 14:26:56

fluffy that's pretty similar to what my mum went for (but she had a jacket rather than bolero, but the same colour combo).

Still18atheart Tue 12-Mar-13 14:05:49

Have you looked in House of Fraser. And I second phase 8

GemmaTeller Tue 12-Mar-13 14:03:40

.... in fact I like it more than the dress I've bought for the wedding...dammit!

GemmaTeller Tue 12-Mar-13 14:00:52
Inertia Tue 12-Mar-13 13:36:58

Hobbs have got lots of bold colours for their dresses, and their dresses are lovely. Can you get your daughter to gently spread the word that the BM will be in navy, you will be in an xx colour dress from yy shop, and MoG will be in zz so that people have a clue what to avoid? Guests often do ask.

CitizenOscar Tue 12-Mar-13 13:19:47

Sorry for late reply - yes DM's tunic top from monsoon was coloured - olive & pink which suited my dress.

It was the result of a personal shopper type service at monsoon.

My Mum, and a my SIL's mum and a few of my friend's mums all went to Jacques Vert. Some of the stuff is hideous and granny but some of it is very stylish and elegant. My Mum wore a black dress with a cream trim and a cream and black bolero and she looked stunning, I was so proud of her.

this is what my Mum wore, it is quite fitted and then flares out and was just gorgeous.

Obv I am biased ;)

I would avoid Monsoon and Coast for fear of wearing the same as other guests.

AWimbaWay Tue 12-Mar-13 12:54:44

*linked on another dress thread that should read!

AWimbaWay Tue 12-Mar-13 12:54:03

Have just seen this dress linked on another dress, watch the video, looks lovely.

AWimbaWay Tue 12-Mar-13 12:33:09
AWimbaWay Tue 12-Mar-13 12:21:11

How about jaeger or fenn wright manson?

My Mum wore a gorgeous floaty soft velvet trouser suit from fwm to my wedding, looked lovely.

grin know what you mean about tarty, but Mum and I were pleasantly surprised. The dresses she tried on came up a tiny bit small, so keep in mind if you order from the website.

KristinaM Tue 12-Mar-13 12:11:03

Thanks for all the links

The black and orange monsoon dress is lovely, but it would wear me I think as the pattern is very bold.

And I forgot that I need to avoid navy as that's what the bridesmaids are wearing. All five of them. In different navy dresses , different fabrics, styles and lengths. And they are not having flowers so will look just like guests.IM not every HO. Ho hum

Amyway, back to the importamt sibject of MY OUTFIT. I've always avoided Karen Millan as I thought it was a bit Tarty. But there are some lovely dresses there too. Ill have to reexamine my prejudices grin

EuroShaggleton Tue 12-Mar-13 11:00:07

My mum wore Jacques Vert to my wedding. It can MOTB central, but her outfit was lovely with not a pastel in sight - a cream edge to edge jacket over a black skirt and black top, with shoes to match the jacket. Basically a very smart and glam suit. She looked fab. She sounds similar to you in that she suits dark or bright colours, in simple, unfussy shapes, and never wears pastels.

Lots of lovely dresses here

Yes, no need to bother with bridal shops, the outfits are mostly vile.

My Mum got a beautiful plum coloured dress from Karen Millen.

Or this?

If florals aren't your thing..

What about this?

Floral but not granny floral IMO!

I think the traditional MOB 'look' doesn't suit anybody under the age of about 70!

When I was getting married my mum and I were horrified by all the peach taffeta everywhere! We gave up on 'bridal' shops completely and ended up getting her a lovely dress from Monsoon - who do actually have a bridal section anyway (which is better than most of them are).

Cremolafoam Tue 12-Mar-13 10:06:14

www.noanoa.com/en/Women

Some really beautiful separates here. Particularly like the pale green shift in broderie anglaise. There is a matching jacket

GemmaTeller Tue 12-Mar-13 09:23:45
member Tue 12-Mar-13 08:56:30

My mum wore an indigoey purple plain shift dress with matching fitted jacket. No bows, ruffles,pastels or florals. The cut, colour and the fact that it was made of silk (not shiny,shiny)made it look elegant.

Startail Tue 12-Mar-13 08:45:46

DMums was a matching cotton jacket and skirt, black with all over cream floral, leafy pattern so it was summery. Hat with black crown and cream brim. She made it, she's a large lady with an aversion to tents, she always made her own dresses and skirts.

DMIL had a wine background, purple bright blue and gold Indian floaty skirt and blouse and definitely no hat. But my DMIL was 16 years older than my mum and the best advert for late motherhood you could ever meet, she was quite a character.

Both OP wore what they felt comfortable in and that's the important thing.

KristinaM Tue 12-Mar-13 08:21:54

That's sounds lovely travail, especially at a winter wedding. Hope the snow lasts for their photos

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