Have been with DP for nearly 3 years and he has two DC from previous relationship. People say to me all the time "you knew what you were getting in to" but I really didn't. Lately I have been getting very upset and angry because of some things DP does, and how I feel that reflects on us and me...but then feel so guilty and like I am not supposed or allowed to feel like that because "it's all for the best interests of the children"
- he has omitted to tell me things...such as about the kids' parties and presents, and when I ask questions about these things he has lied (to protect me apparently)
- he makes decisions that affect our life without consulting me at all because he can't seem to stand up to his XP and so goes along with whatever she says
There are other things but I feel these are the most important because they are about the way we interact rather than actual things if you like.
I am almost at the end of my tether and don't know whether these are things I signed up to (I feel they shouldn't be, as openness and honesty and an equal partnership is really important to me, although I realise and do make a lot of compromises and sacrifices because it is best for the DCs). He says he is in such a difficult situation and can't please everybody, but it always seems to be me he chooses not to please. Am I being dramatic and childish, like he says, (I know I'm in no way perfect and I do get pretty upset with him) and is this stuff necessary? Do I need to either accept it or leave?
Thank you in advance.