I'm pregnant.
DP wants to take DSD to do lessons in a particular sport. And he wants to do lessons in that sport too. Her lesson would be an hour and he's talking about doing a two hour intensive lesson at the same time. I can't do this sport because I'm pregnant and it's a bit dangerous.
So he asked me would I drive an hour up to the lesson with him and DSD, wait for her lesson to finish then get her changed, feed her and then wait with her while he finishes his lesson. Then drive an hour back.
That's four hours out of my weekend that he wants me to spend hanging around just so him and DSD can do these lessons.
He thinks I'm being selfish and said to me 'if DSD was your child too, would you do it?' To which I replied 'no I still wouldn't bloody do it'. Because its not about me not wanting to put myself out for DSD. I don't like the assumption that my time is so invaluable, I'd have nothing better to do with four hours than just wait around for them both.
I said that he should do an hour at the same time as DSD. He maintains that because of all the faff with getting DSD changed and ready for her lesson, he'd be late for his own lesson. And have to leave early to meet her, etc.
So the only other solution is for him to take her for an hour on one day and he goes on his own for a separate lesson another day.
He hasn't said as much but is inferring I'm being selfish and not 'part of the family'.
I think he's BU.
Am I right?
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TheDishwasherFairy · 19/05/2013 18:24
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