Im not a step parent, my ex has a gf of 5 months, kids have spent maybe 6 (not all full) days with her. They are struggling he wont discuss his relationship with them dd got told "its none of your business" basically hes took them to a strange house and expected them to get on with it (ages 2, 7, and 9)
Ive spent since sun sticking up for him telling them he DOES love them and no one else comes first (ie gfs children) and trying to persuade them to give spending a weekend there another chance..and im still the bad guy and making things awkward for him.
I know i have no rights in stopping her from spending time with them, infact i dont want to but im getting them home miserable and they just relax spending time with me and it all starts again dd1 is withdrawn and unhappy, ds (aged2) comes home clingy and tired and dd2 (7) comes home telling me her dad doesnt care about her.
cant speak to the gf for whatever reasons ex keeps us apart, no need there is no jealousy im happy in a relationship and just want the children happy, theres lots of tension between her children and ours which hes refusing to see, and i just wondered if any step parents had been in this situation and how you dealt with it?
background info, they met her one afternoon, spent a day there not long after then 2 weeks later slept over, 2 weeks later spent the entire weekend there hes only been with her 5 months aswell and these visits happened in the last two months and i totally get he just wants to be with her and he misses her if he cant but he wont talk to them about it, dd refuses to because he doesnt listen (know how she feels) and this was in response to some upset that her wii games are at dads and "well we wont ever go there again and i just want my stuff and and.." lots of crying, i just want to help them adjust because its killing me to see them unhappy but what can i do if he just wont listen?
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keelyboo · 17/04/2013 11:11
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