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NOW CLOSED Who's your No. 1 person? Share your nomination with Pink Lady apples and win £100 Marks & Spencer voucher or a spa break for two

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KatieBMumsnet (MNHQ) Thu 01-Nov-12 09:25:44

The folks at Pink Lady are looking for nominations from Mumsnetters for their "No.1" person. Here's what they say: "We're so proud of the great taste of Pink Lady apples, some say they're too good to share. We'd like to know who you'd give your last Pink Lady to and why they're your No.1 person."

So, do you have an adult family member or adult friend who you has done something special this year? Have they supported you through some difficult times? Maybe they've provided great advice or just been a shoulder to cry on? Perhaps they've had a tough year but you've admired how they've coped with it? Are they always being a good friend to you? Whatever the case may be Pink Lady would love to hear your nominations - you don't have to name them but just describe what they mean to you.

Everyone who adds a nomination to this thread will be entered into a prize draw to win a £100 Marks & Spencer voucher.

Pink Lady Apples also have a special competition running where you can also nominate your No.1 person - and you could win a spa break for you and your No.1 person. Follow this link for more information and full T&Cs.

Thanks and good luck,

MNHQ

SpookyAndFrights Thu 01-Nov-12 09:33:58

My number 1 person would be my dp, we have been together nearly nine years and have had some rough times including 2 m/c's, his heart attacks and angina attacks, he lost his job due to his ill health and subsequent depression. However bad it's been he has supported me and been a wonderful dad to our 4 dd's. He drives me mad daily but he is the first person I turn to, he is my number 1.

CMOTDibbler Thu 01-Nov-12 09:45:30

I have to say its my dh too. We've been married for 15 years, and in that time we've moved long distance twice, he's been made redundnant twice, we lost three babies, I acquired a disability after an accident, he had a nervous breakdown, and he's facing major surgery with possibly an amputation. Oh, and my parents are very frail and mum has dementia.
And through it all, he just hugs me and says 'we'll get through it' - and we do. Just him, me and ds.

TaggieCampbellBlack Thu 01-Nov-12 09:46:07

My no1 person is my lovely friend. We met 17 years ago at antenatal class with our first babies and been friends ever since. We have shared sleepless nights, toddling, first school days, second babies, childhood illnesses, secondary schools, exams, work angst, me going back to school (twice), good times and bad times and lord knows how many bottles of wine.
She's had an unbelievably rubbish year. Both her and her DH have bern made redundant. Her DHs father died after a long illness and then her own lovely dad died suddenly. And during all that, supporting her MiL and her Mum, she has decided to have a complete career change and gone back to college and run a couple of marathons.
Despite all this going on she is still kind and thoughful enough to be my friend. To be there for me when I need her.
I wish I had a quarter of her energy and patience.

Trills Thu 01-Nov-12 09:46:57

Is this a 5-a-day version of "your last Rolo"?

TheMummyLovesAScareFest Thu 01-Nov-12 09:58:37

i'd nominate my mum. she has had such a tough life and doesn't have much but is always there for us. if she sees us struggling she would give up her last penny and always puts us first. This year she's solved all my worries as she's giving up her job to look after my baby dd when I go back to work. I know she'll love it bit also that she's doing it for me. She would definately deserve my last apple and much much more smile

ShatnersBassoon Thu 01-Nov-12 10:06:55

I'd nominate my friend. She's had a really bad year coping with family illness and some ill health of her own, but she has never stopped doing for other people. She has raised thousands for charity in various ways, spends more time making other people happy than anyone I've ever known and is a truly selfless person.

You'll all see her on one of those Noel's Christmas Presents sorts of programmes one day, being given the recognition she deserves, I'm sure of it!

JaquelineHyde England Thu 01-Nov-12 10:08:34

I would have to nominate my Mum.

She has always amazed me with her ability to cope with the worst of situations and the most stressful of times and yet still find time for all 7 of her children.

However, over the last few years she has been a tower of strength to me and the rest of our family. My younger sister was diagnosed with a serious mental health condition and as a result had her daughter removed from her care (at 3 months old) my Mum at the age of 58 jumped into action and took residence of my neice, she then went through a year of hellish assessments and meetings and was finally granted special guardianship of my neice until she is 18. Over the last 4 years she has managed to juggle caring for my neice and putting her needs first as well as looking out for my sister and helping her through this horrific situation. She also helped me through a major operation last year and supported me to complete my degree and win a place on a social work masters course.

In the last 2 months we have discovered that my sister is again pregnant and the likelyhood is this child will be removed at birth sad My Mum at 62 years old is, after lots of heartache and sleepless nights, now putting herself forward again as a carer for my sisters new baby to stop it going into the care system.
I am also pregnant (due 4 weeks after my sister) and completing my masters and she always manages to support and encourage me as well as her other 5 sons.

I really don't know how she does it, I know she is exhausted and wishes things were so different but she just keeps going. At 62 she should be enjoying her retirement and seeing her family and grandchildren (she has 10 so far) travelling and relaxing. But she has chosen as she always does to put her family first and push through to make sure that those babies get the best possible start in life they can have.

thanks She amazes me and for that reason she is my No.1 person. thanks

Flippityjig Thu 01-Nov-12 10:26:06

I would nominate my dh, he is my best friend, and has been so understanding and supportive through tough times, I couldn't have done it without him. He always smiles and is cheery and is just amazing.

Jacqueline, your mum sounds utterly amazing. You must be so proud to have someone as incredible and inspirational as that in your life.

JaquelineHyde England Thu 01-Nov-12 10:45:37

I am proud and I love her to bits even though she also manages to do what every good mother should and drive me bloody insane grin

ouryve Thu 01-Nov-12 11:40:36

It's my DH for me, too.

The boys can be tricky to deal with, sometimes (both have ASD) and he's right there tag teaming with me when it needs doing.

And he went out and bought and fitted a padlock for the understairs cupboard after DS2 learned to get in there, this week, so I no longer need to push the dining table against it all day. I'd happily give him my last apple for that alone (once he's picked his socks up off the bathroom floor - bit of a blindspot there).

Mrscoghoul Thu 01-Nov-12 12:17:19

For me it would have to be my Mum. She is the loveliest, most caring person I know. She'll always make time for anyone who wants to talk, and also volunteers as a counsellor at a local charity. She always puts her family first (my Dad and sister are very demanding on her time!) and I wish she'd spend more time on herself!

She always has a delicious cake in, and has been amazingly supportive of me this year with my new baby, and I am touched at how much she loves her new grandson. Every day I think about how lucky I am to have such a wonderful Mum so she could definitely have my last pink lady - which is quite a thing for me to say as they are my favourite apple by far!!

mrspumpkinpatch Thu 01-Nov-12 12:21:17

My number 1 person would be my Mum.

The last few years have been tremendously stressful. She had a heart attack 2 months after DD was born and the thought of her not being here to see her first grandchild growing up has weighed heavily on me.

She has powered through though, she quit smoking and is on umpteen medications every day, but her devotion to my daughter is unwavering.

Money is tight but she has stepped in to help out with childcare regularly. She finds it very tiring running around after a toddler but she wouldn't have it any other way.

She has been so supportive, even though she has been going through her own crisis, and I genuinely don't know what I'd do without her.

My number 1 person is my mum. She's been an amazing support to me and a fantastic grandmother to DD. (She also loved pink lady apples)
She came to stay with us to help me night wean DD and got her sleeping through the night (well, to 4:30) when I was too exhausted to do anything other than boob to sleep in the middle of the night. she's always there for me, but never interferes. She looked after DD do DH and I could go away for a day by ourselves. I don't know what I'd do without her.

weregoingtothezoo Thu 01-Nov-12 13:30:42

My fiance - I had a serious accident 4 months ago and he has rearranged the rest of his life around visiting me in hospital, supporting me getting home, enabling me to recover both physically, emotionally and spiritually. I am so lucky, never had a relationship like this before and very, very grateful.

KnockedUpMell Thu 01-Nov-12 13:31:43

It would have to be my lovely midwife (also a good friend) who agreed to provide one to one care for me despite being on secondment in a different hospital 2 hours away. She has a 4hour daily commute and still had time for my antenatal checks and to harass me about taking my iron tablets. Now that dd is here, she's been incredibly supportive and helped out with ds. When ds was born I really struggled with bf and again she came over and spent hours with me helping to get his latch sorted. I wouldn't have bf him past a week if not for her, and it was my bf experience from last time that has given me the confidence to bf dd.

Rindercella Thu 01-Nov-12 15:20:52

I would like to nominate my friend J.

J and I have been friends since we were in the same postnatal group following the arrivals of our (now 5 year old) daughters. We gradually became better friends and over coffee while the girls played, we would chat and found we had lots in common and a very similar filthy sense of humour.

J was on hand when my second daughter was born and helped out with DD1 when I was in hospital. Her offer of help was unconditional: whatever she was doing, wherever she was, she promised she would drop everything and come over and help when I went into labour.

5 weeks after DD2 was born, I had to call on J to help again. This time because my wonderful DH had been admitted to hospital and was diagnosed with terminal cancer. I remember the day he was diagnosed, I came home from the hospital in the evening, in absolute bits, totally exhausted physically and emotionally and J and her husband were there. Her husband was busy fixing a leak in the bathroom and J had tidied up the mess I had made earlier in the day in my rush to get to the hospital and was cooking us all dinner. She poured me a glass of wine and made me sit down whilst she took care of the girls. After dinner she bathed the children and put them to bed. I am not sure if she gets how truly wonderful it was to see her on that evening, and just how much I needed someone there. As well as all of the practical things, just having someone there to hug me and to listen to me through my tears, still brings a tear to my eye now.

During the last year of my husband's life, J was there. She has this incredible gift of always saying the right thing, of doing the right thing. She was on hand to help me with childcare if I needed to go to the hospital with DH, and then later if I wanted to spend time alone with him at the hospice. She was always there with a cup of tea and a hug and some bloody common sense! She was there the day of his funeral, when our two daughters (best friends!) played in the church. She took DD1 home afterwards when she had her very first sleep over, bringing her back the following day with happy memories from the day her father was laid to rest.

In the 18 months since DH died, J has always been there for me. She totally understands my hopes and fears, my dreams hoped for and my wishes dashed. We are currently rather rubbish gym buddies: we are meant to be helping each other regain some kind of level of fitness, but instead encourage each other to sneak off early, scoff cake and drink copious amounts of tea and natter away about life, the universe and everything else.

I know she values me as a friend, and perhaps that is why she has helped so much. But I think it's more than that: she is an incredibly special person who has an innate understanding of my situation. I would like to thank her from the bottom of my heart for being such a fantastic friend.

crying now

lottytheladybird Thu 01-Nov-12 15:45:36

My dh is most definitely my number one! He is amazingly supportive and works super hard to help me with our 2 year old and 6 month old boys.

On Mondays, he goes to work at 8am, comes home at 6:30pm to help with the kids, make dinner, wash up, put the bins out. He then makes me a cup of tea before going back to work at 8:30pm and comes home again at 11pm.

He's my superstar! I would give him my last pink lady without any hesitation!

gosh this is a hard one.

I am very lucky to have a few amazing people in my life. My mum is great but my Dp really has been there for me through some tough times. I had 4 miscarriages before having dd and dp was an absolute rock throughout all of them, he never flinched when I took my grief out on him never made me feel bad for it.

nothing seems to faze him. His father had a very serious accident and there were some deaths in his close family but he has coped with it all and still has a smile on his face most of the time

he's been made redundant more times than I can remember and he is currently making the most of that by being a brilliant sahd to our dd and my elder dc.

I'm off to tell him just how fab he is! grin

BornToFolk Thu 01-Nov-12 16:12:25

My mum. She's always been great but since exP walked out in May she's been especially great, providing endless emotional support and wine!
She's also provided me with practical help such as being a guarantor on my mortgage which will enable me and DS to stay in our home.
She came on holiday with me and DS and we had a lovely time and we've been on lots of days out together. It's made me see that family life did not end when exP left, it's just changed.
She's looking after DS today and is spoiling him rotten as every good Granny should!

As JacquelineHyde said, she does what every mother does and drives me bloody insane sometimes but I honestly don't know where DS and I would be without her help, love and support.

Hopezibah Thu 01-Nov-12 16:20:39

I have an amazing mother-in-law. Yep that's not something you hear too often as mother in laws can often be a real pain - but mine said that she would be a doubly-good granny when our first baby came along to make up for me having lost my own mum a few years before that. And she has certainly kept her word. She now has 5 grandchildren (3 of them my kids) and she is amazing at being there when we need her (which is quite often now we have three and the eldest being autistic - we feel like we have our hands full a lot of the time). I remember a few years ago when I had REALLY bad flu and basically could not have coped without her help. She came by every day while i was unwell and took the kids out for the day until i felt better again. I never really get to say thank you to her as she does so much it is really hard to know how to say a special thank you - but she is great and we love her!

janglitz Thu 01-Nov-12 16:40:58

My number one person is my mum.... We have been through thick and thin together over the years...when our family broke down years ago we found ourselves homeless..with only each other. My mother is my best friend and had supported me in my life...she looked after my children so I could return to work, I always say to everyone that I hope I become like my mum as I get older, she is a happy go lucky person always smiling and laughing, she is my insperation and the person I look up to.
I don't know where I would be without her.
We all love her and appricate her tremendously.

EauRouge Thu 01-Nov-12 16:42:05

Tempted to say my DH or my mum who are both amazing, but I'd like to nominate my friend, who is a fantastic mother and after a rough year she has welcomed a beautiful new DS to the world. I don't want to add too many details because she told me a lot of stuff in confidence but I can't think of anyone I know more deserving of no.1 person status!

Pavlovthecat Thu 01-Nov-12 16:42:36

My DD. She is kind, caring, helpful, funny, she amazes me every day and she loves apples. I would certainly give her my very last pink lady. I would say the same about DS too but he doesn't like apples. Not even covered in chocolate ones as I found out yesterday.

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