hi bunny2
My ds is 5, 6 in october.
Looking back I can see stuff starting when he was a baby and toddler
He would develop really irrational fears over silly things. Now I know most babies and toddlers do this. My dd aged 2 does but these were full blown hysterical shaking fits which were very frequent. He would go hysterical over his dad being in the house at bedtime. It would get so bad that my ex would have to go out for two hours every night just so I could calm him down. Strangley enough this suddenly stopped when dd was born and then he started to freak out when he saw me breastfeeding. (I couldn't cope and it was one of the reasons I stopped)
He started going to playgroup and appeared to settle in well there.. the staff loved him. He then started to withdraw a bit from joining in and became a bit 'rebellious'. He started to get very anxious about being left and in the end I withdrew him from playgroup (aged 3 and 1/2.
He got seen by the under 5's developement team (He was already being seen by a paed at the hospital because of an medical condition he's got (kidney reflux) He spent a lot of time in and out of hospital due to wee infections, scans, tests etc which may have affected him I don't know. The under 5's team said he has seperation anxiety issues but apart from that he's fine. hmmmm.
Nursery: Started well, got on well with staff and peers until after xmas term. He started to become 'obsessed' by a little boy in his class and would not leave him alone. he was constantly hounding this poor boy, wanting to touch him, stroke him, he would follow him everywhere, pull him about. In the end end his nursery teacher saw me struggling with him in the playground and getting in a state and told me to bring him in later after nursery had just started to avoid the issue in the playground, then they could control it from there which I did appreciate.
That wore off and then the obession with hoovers started which is an on going thing. He started flicking light switches on and off over and over again. He would put his hands over his ears if a lorry or bus passed him on the way to nursery, crouch against a wall and go uh uh uh until it passed.
He started school this year and everything seemed great. His obsessional behaviour seemed to wear off a bit and I though great! It was just one of those things. How wrong I was!
Last term the trouble started again. He became a little bit agressive in school, he bit another child and bruised anothers fingers. The only reason he gave was 'they talked in my face mummy' He hates people in his personal space, not me or his dad but other children even his sister sometimes. His concetration was poor although he is a good reader and is bright he won't sit still and flits from one thing to another. His teacher would have the others sitting down quietly for a story and he'd get up and start running around squealing, flapping his hands.He will not listen and will wonder across the road without looking He's not like it every day but a lot of the time. He's started getting a thing about lamp posts.
He loves computers, watching toy story (repeatedly!) and will only draw houses. He's stopped playing with the things that that he used to love like his cars and trucks which makes me feel sad. (he'd rather cut my grass and hedges with a a pair of scissors , spent hours doing that yesterday)
I remember being in the chippy the other week and he wouldn't keep still, then started stroking the walls. The looks he got....
The school nurse, his teachers and me are in agreement in saying there is something. Yes he's a bright, chatty, affectionate, helpful little angel BUT!!
My parents are in denial by saying oh theres nothing wrong with him.. it's my break up with my ex that done this (might have made him worse but the stuff was there before our break up anyway)When I press them more closely they do tend to reluctantly admit things that the'yve noticed about him.
bunny 2 I understand how your feeling. Its a scary thing. Have you noticed anything about your ds yourself or is it his teachers that have noticed it first?
In a way, for me it'll be a relief to get some kid of dx if it comes to it a;though I hope there won't be if you know what I mean. he'll still be my little boy whatever.
Your heart aches for them dosen't it.
Bloody hell I've rambled tonight.. I'm off to bed now I think.