I fear I have been incredibly naive regarding my daughter and the possibility that she has some form of ASD. I had suspicions early on but because she met most of her milestones i just assumed she was sensitive, but having recently spent more time with other parents I realise we have actually changed our lives significantly to assist her.
She has always been 'sensitive'. I've posted before regarding her very limited diet and eating problems but I'm afraid to say we have rather played down some of the other sensory issues . For example her utter dread and hatred of hand dryers, vacuum cleaners, noisy cars, musical instruments and more bizarrely singing, especially in groups). She regularly wears ear protectors but won't go near a public toilet.
Her dislike of bright lights or changing of lights (e.g. Lights flicking between trees whilst in cars, camera flashes, and people's faces that she just takes a dislike to.)
Touch wise she's incredibly fussy over clothes (seams etc) and having blankets over her, doesn't like her hair or teeth being brushed (I've been known to detangle at night). Doesn't like mucky hands or feet.
She is generally hard to settle to sleep and is frequently awake to very late.
Socially things have become severe. She's never liked strangers and this has always been excused by family as her being shy. But the more we've tried to socialise her the more withdrawn and distrusting of people she seems to become. When children speak to her she usually ignores them or reacts inappropriately (e.g. A child pushed into her and she laughed). She speaks about going to see her friends but doesn't really have any and when in the company of children she doesn't interact with them and doesn't want to. She is very happy to do her own thing. These things are often very active repeatedly climbing or sliding etc.
When unknown adults talk to her she usually turns away or covers her eyes. This sometimes happens even with family members that she hadn't seen for a month or so.
If we are outside and she sees/hears something she dislikes she will freeze and refuse to move, gesture to be picked up. Once in arms she hides her eyes and ears and in effect shuts down until we are out of the area and sufficiently reassured.
She spoke early but lost her speech completely at a year and it didn't come back to just over two when she started speaking in full sentences, Drs etc have excused this however as being due to sore throats, we even had her hearing tested at one point, but she has sensitive hearing not impaired hearing. I realise lately that even at three alot of her common phrases are echoed from tv etc.
I know as things are she will never accept going to school. If left on her own she would shut down completely and likely refuse to move leading eventually to a tantrum where she will scream and fling herself around. We actually planned from birth to homeschool so this isn't a major problem but does stand to outline the difficulties.
However: she holds eye contact well with myself and close family members. Is potty trained. Met her milestones on the early side. Is very active. Can count to 50 and knows her alphabet. She is incredibly loving to myself and close family and adores animals (quite obsessed actually). She is genuinely incredibly happy.
Am I imagining problems? Have I been naive or oblivious? I feel like the worst mum ever. Where do I go from here? Health visitor?
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