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How old were you when you had your last baby?

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soverytiredofthis Thu 07-Feb-13 11:20:48


We are living in limbo land. DD has epilepsy and other probs that may or may not be genetic. We are currently waiting for genetic counsellor to do some more gene testing for Rett Syndrome and other conditions related.

We have always wanted 3 children, this changed when DD was 4 months old and diagnosed with epilepsy. We went down to 2 children and now we are not sure with recent diagnosis of Microcephaly as to whether we will have anymore.

Long winded explanation but I am 33 this year and was wondering how old you were when you had last baby NT or with special needs??

nostoppingme Mon 11-Feb-13 20:47:07

31 - DS has DYS, DYS, ASD
33 - DD has DYS

Very intelligent children, both of them.

On both sides of our families, these conditions appear, also ADHD. Only realised this since DS his first diagnosis 2 years ago.

I sometimes think about my future grandchildren.....

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Mon 11-Feb-13 18:41:08

32 with DS1, he's NT but geeky, a lot like my ex H.

34 with DS2, ASD.

37 with DS3, NT (ish) but very quirky.

For my family, DS3 has proved to be a very good decision, he's so good for DS2 (and just delicious blush )

Owllady Mon 11-Feb-13 15:38:06

soverytiredofthis, have you had genetic counselling?

I was 22,23 and 29 when I had mine and my eldest is severely disabled. We were given a 10% of re-occurrence so stopped at two and then had a surprise!

My daughter has similar problems to your by the sounds of it, we never found a medical cause despite lots of tests. Retts is always tested for girls with microcephaly and GDD btw

elliejjtiny Mon 11-Feb-13 14:53:22

23 - miscarriage
24 - DS1 - quirky and routine loving but apparantly not AS, mild hypermobility
25 - DS2 - Ehlers Danlos Syndrome
27 - miscarriage
28 - DS3 - hypermobility
29 - miscarriage
31 - DC4 not born yet

MerryCouthyMows Sun 10-Feb-13 06:39:39

To clarify :

16 DD - Hypermobility syndrome, GDD, LD's, HFA, partially deaf, dyslexia, Dyspraxia, dyscalculia, SALT issues, APD, and two leaky heart valves that need replacing.

20 DS1 - mild, as yet undxd Hypermobility syndrome, and just starting the process of dx for Aspergers on advice of the school.

21 DS2 - Hypermobility Syndrome, GDD, ASD, partially deaf, dyslexia, dyspraxia, SALT issues, APD, chronic brittle asthma.

29 DS3 - Hypermobility Syndrome, GDD, probable Autism (awaiting ADOS in May), hyperactivity 'with a high probability of ADHD', SALT issues, life threatening allergies.

I have shite genetics.

My DC's have 3 different fathers. DD's father has two DC's that also have SN's. DS1's father is NT. DS2 and DS3 have the same father. He was dxd with Autism when he was 12, and has recently been dxd with Dyspraxia through his work.

I'm not having any more DC's, I'm waiting to be sterilised.

MerryCouthyMows Sun 10-Feb-13 05:19:27

I was 29, DS3 has hyperactivity (with a high probability of ADHD), probable Autism (being assessed in May), SALT issues, hypermobility syndrome and life threatening allergies.

Awaiting genetic test results as DD and DS2 have the same issues, except for the allergies.

tabulahrasa Sun 10-Feb-13 03:46:36

17 DS, AS, joint hypermobility and hypotonia and a speech disorder

21 DD NT

Badvoc Sat 09-Feb-13 17:37:05

30 nearly 31 - ds1 - significant developmental delay
35 nearly 36 - ds2 - NT

isthatallyouvegot Sat 09-Feb-13 15:16:21

25- Ds 8 yrs - (HFA?)
29- Dd 4 yrs - (delayed S&L)

HotheadPaisan Sat 09-Feb-13 14:01:47

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Pagwatch Sat 09-Feb-13 10:32:00

30 with DS1 . NT

33 with DS2 . Asd

40 with DD . NT and absoloutely a fabulous decision smile

float62 Sat 09-Feb-13 10:30:01


HecateWhoopass Fri 08-Feb-13 22:52:05

erm, 26 I think. I can never remember how old I was when I had the kids. That's really bad, isn't it? blush I have to get a bit of paper and work it out.

Mid 20s anyway, for both of them. They were born 15 months apart. Both have autism and younger also ADHD.

We were going to have 3, but once we had DX x 2, we decided to not have any more.

I had DS1 at 19. He's dyspraxic and probably dyslexic. Ds2 is NT. I had him at 28.

marchduck Fri 08-Feb-13 22:48:17

DS - 32 (NT)
DD - 34 (ASD)
DH & I have been together since I was 18 and married realtively young. We had more or less resigned ourselves to being on our own, but then our wee miracles came along!
One of my friends has just had her first baby, aged 40 - they are both doing the best.

TaggieCampbellBlack Fri 08-Feb-13 22:08:47

21 - DD1 nt
23 - DD2 as

Would have liked a couple more but ectopic and knackered tubes put paid to that idea.

WaftyCrank Fri 08-Feb-13 21:58:15

20 - DS1, ASD, pica and SPD
21 - DD1, NT
23 - DS2, NTish (Quite a few traits but he's only 22 months)
25 - DD2, 3 months so not sure yet but so far so good.

Spyrofan Thu 07-Feb-13 20:08:41

21 ASD
22 NT

Goodtalkingtoo Thu 07-Feb-13 19:52:47

17 NT
24 Dcd, aspergers
28 nt
34 nt

Know what you mean Davros! Having a baby at 45 was a piece of cake, but having a 3 year old non-verbal autistic toddler at nearly 50 is something else! And I still have the demanding career too! But I seem to find the energy somewhere (in DS's lovely giggle maybe!)

Pebbles69 Thu 07-Feb-13 19:21:04

18 DD1 Dyslexia
22 DS1 NT
30 DD2 NT
35 DS2 ASD
38 DD3 NT

Awomansworth Thu 07-Feb-13 18:36:08

44 - twin sons... after 10 years of trying through multiple cycles of IVF

1 NT

I had quite a demanding career, and even taking into account ds1's ASD, I have more energy now than when I worked 60 plus hours a week.

Davros Thu 07-Feb-13 18:18:49

Boo hoo, I thought I would get top prize but thedudesmummy has won so far.
I was 35 when I had DS who has severe ASD and 43 when I had DD who is dyslexic
Lots of AS and ASD in my family I now realise. Reason for big gap and only having two is my health with long term immune system illness.
I found having a baby at 43 quite easy but having a 5 year old at 48 was another matter! Especially with DS to manage as well but at least he was well settled at school and had clubs and holiday schemes sorted

twinkle2947 Thu 07-Feb-13 18:12:41

23 DS1 NT
26 DS2 NT
28 DS3 NT
30 DS4 NT
33 DS5 ASD (unofficially, officially diagnosis on Weds)

NoHaudinMaWheest Thu 07-Feb-13 17:42:44

Ds HF ASD OCD dyslexia hypermobile joints at 37
DD dyslexia at 40 nearly 41

Did think about no 3 but eventually decided not mainly because of my health problems. We didn't even suspect DS had ASD until he was about 8 diagnosed at 10.

At 33 you do have time to wait especially if there is still uncertainty about DD's treatment and diagnosis.

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