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How old were you when you had your last baby?

(60 Posts)
soverytiredofthis Thu 07-Feb-13 11:20:48

Hi

We are living in limbo land. DD has epilepsy and other probs that may or may not be genetic. We are currently waiting for genetic counsellor to do some more gene testing for Rett Syndrome and other conditions related.

We have always wanted 3 children, this changed when DD was 4 months old and diagnosed with epilepsy. We went down to 2 children and now we are not sure with recent diagnosis of Microcephaly as to whether we will have anymore.

Long winded explanation but I am 33 this year and was wondering how old you were when you had last baby NT or with special needs??

autumnsmum Thu 07-Feb-13 11:22:25

I was thirty six dd three she has autism

37.

hazeyjane Thu 07-Feb-13 11:23:48

I had our dds at 37 and 38 (both nt), after 7 years of ttc, and ds (sn) at 41.

How old is your dd?

soverytiredofthis Thu 07-Feb-13 11:23:54

Sorry for post but having a brief of a meltdown as we are about to pull apart attic as full of baby things and feel like I'm being pulled apart as I want a baby but don't feel we could cope with another child with long term special needs.

Our DD is not medically controlled as she has a very complex epilepsy.

soverytiredofthis Thu 07-Feb-13 11:24:25

DD is 3 1/2

weegiemum Thu 07-Feb-13 11:25:39

I was 32, almost 33 when I had dd2 (dc3). She has had a longstanding hip problem (now thankfully almost resolved) that may or may not be genetic - family have all given blood as part of a trial being run to research it.

ouryve Thu 07-Feb-13 11:28:12

I had DS1 at 34 and DS2 at 36. Both have ASD.

DameMargotFountain Thu 07-Feb-13 11:33:31

i was 17 when i had DS1

39 when i had DD1

DD is the only one with official DX, but i reckon all 3 are on the autistic spectrum - DS2 has dyslexia and i suspect dyspraxia also

chocjunkie Thu 07-Feb-13 11:37:45

DD1 (autism), 31
DD2 (only 2 very quirky but much more NT-ish than DD1), 34

vjg13 Thu 07-Feb-13 12:05:35

I was 30 when my first child was born [GDD] and 35 with the second who has no additional needs.

Could you not put your baby stuff in storage and give yourself a bit more time? Or give it away and have an excuse for new things if you decide having another child is right for you. smile

I would have liked more children too in a perfect world but I am very grateful for my two and not sure how well I would have managed with more.

silverfrog Thu 07-Feb-13 12:08:57

For each of mine:

dd1 (severe ASD): 28
dd2 (lots of traits, ?AS): 30
ds (only a baby, so who can tell, but all seems ok so far): 36

Crawling Thu 07-Feb-13 12:15:36

I was 17 ds (AS)
21 dd1 (asd)
23 dd2 shes too young to know whether or not she has sn.

WipsGlitter Thu 07-Feb-13 12:23:02

Ds1 - 37 NT
Ds2 - 39, Down's syndrome

I'm 43 this year and would love another one...

coff33pot Thu 07-Feb-13 12:23:42

25 for first DD
34 for my precious one I miscarried
36 for middle DD
and 41 for DS (has alphabet letters after his name lol grin)

only last one dx but we are all in the spectrum club one way or another x

merlincat Thu 07-Feb-13 12:27:34

I was 34 with Dd 1 (AS), 36 with Ds (NT) 39 Dd 2 (NT). Our families are full of AS on both sides so we were lucky, I think.

phlebas Thu 07-Feb-13 12:31:58

25 - dd1 - nt
31 - ds1 - ASD
34 - dd2 - nt
36 - ds2 - so far nt

troutsprout Thu 07-Feb-13 12:59:15

30...Baby no1...asd
35....Baby no 2.... nt

starfishmummy Thu 07-Feb-13 13:08:50

42 with my only child. Complex special needs arising from severe congenital hydrocephalus, (which we are told are not related to my age).

redhappy Thu 07-Feb-13 13:18:05

25 ds (ASD)
26 dd NT

Would love another one day, currently 31 and single so not sure if it will happen.

SallyBear Thu 07-Feb-13 13:21:23

30 - twins TDD Treacher Collins Syndrome (TCS) & TDS ASD/Dyslexia/Dyspraxia
35 -DS3 NT
37 - DS4 TCS & ASD

Strongecoffeeismydrug Thu 07-Feb-13 13:35:16

21 DD NT
30 DS autism

moosemama Thu 07-Feb-13 13:46:22

32 - ds1 - AS
34 - ds2 - Joint hypermobility syndrome and imo mild dyslexia and some AS traits (although hard to untangle as he is very influenced by his big brother)
Just a smidge under 39 - dd - NT, but I suspect she also has hypermobility

AS can clearly been seen on both sides of the family - going back several generations on dh's side - and hypermobility can be traced back through 3, poss 4, generations on my side. Wish I'd known all that before we had dcs, but wouldn't want to be without any of them for a minute.

babiki Thu 07-Feb-13 13:56:04

21 -DS NT. 27 - DD NT. 30 - DS with GDD

AgnesDiPesto Thu 07-Feb-13 13:56:45

31 DS1 NT
33 DS2 NT
36 DS3 ASD

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