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So, the school have threatened me with the legal team

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lougle Wed 30-Jan-13 14:52:35

After sending the nice email to the Head, I have had an email telling me that if DD2 doesn't turn up at either the new school or the old school tomorrow, she'll pass on the information to the legal team and I'll be fined.

I've phoned the Inclusion Office and told them the situation. They're going to write a note on the database that I've informed them DD2 has a new school place from Monday and is visiting the school tomorrow, that I have bought uniform and am registered on their 'parentmail' system.

She's really going for me, isn't she?

porridgeLover Wed 30-Jan-13 15:58:03

Lougle, I have only just read your original thread and cannot believe what has now happened. I'm agog actually.
Thats making it personal and has little/no regard for DD's needs.

I would be inclined to email/write to the Inclusion office to follow up on your phone call and ensure there is a paper trail.
I would probably also go back to the GP and ask for a 'note' hmm to back up your concerns.

This probably wont help but try not to fret about it.... it is the bluster of a bully.

TheLightPassenger Wed 30-Jan-13 15:59:28

shock how vindictive.

LabelsGalore Wed 30-Jan-13 16:02:32

I would say that she has just confirmed that your decision to change school asap was the right one!
And if anything I think that will probably play into your favour. I am pretty sure that creating such mayhem when it is a known thing that you are changing school is the sign that she is taking it personally and perhaps, only perhaps, she is the one in the wrong. It will only reinforce your position as someone calm and reasonable at the new school.

And yy to make it in writing. I have found it is always making a BIG difference when things are in writing.

PolterGoose Wed 30-Jan-13 16:05:02

She's vile and needs to be ignored. Don't let her have any power, she does not matter anymore. Agree on the paper trail, having just started my own!

Your dd is happy and excited, that is what matters.

What a bully!!

Thank goodness you got your child out of that school. Can't imagine staff morale being very good under such a leader.

Ineedmorepatience Wed 30-Jan-13 16:33:15

She is vile, agree about creating a paper trail and would follow it up with an email and a letter to the inclusion office.

If the HT contacts you again I would inform her that you are now dealing with any issues via the inclusion office or education welfare officer. I really dont think anyone will be issuing you with a fine.

Horrible for you though, it definitely sounds like you are doing the right thing. She is just pissed off thats all.

Take care and keep copies of everythingsad

zzzzz Wed 30-Jan-13 16:40:41

Gosh what a horrific old cow. Send an "I said this you said that" email and thank your own good sense she has nothing to do with your family any more. shock

Cornycremegg Wed 30-Jan-13 16:46:11

You won't be fined. Horrible woman. It's all about power for some teachers.

If you're lucky, this HT's reputation goes before her and the new Head will be fair to you when you arrive.

justaboutchilledout Wed 30-Jan-13 18:55:33

shock Who is she, the Queen of England?

So glad you thought to test her vindictive nonsense with the inclusion office.

She sounds a really nasty piece of work. Why WOULD you hound a parent removing their child from the school? When we were removing DS1, our (foul) HT was clearly relieved that it was all over and was actually fairly polite.

imogengladhart Wed 30-Jan-13 19:17:58

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

AuntStressie Wed 30-Jan-13 20:36:30

I would forward her email to the inclusion officer (copying her in of course) and saying 'as discussed I am forwarding the message from bitch HT for your attention'.
She can then worry about what's been said and know that the LA are aware of her little tricks. angry on your behalf -you're well rid by the look of it!

lougle Wed 30-Jan-13 20:58:23

Thank you all, you're so kind.

Well it was all rather dramatic after my post. I received a copy of the email the Inclusion officer wrote to the Locality Team manager, which was factually neutral but sent the message 'this is a waste of your time'.

I then had a phone call from new head, who was incredibly professional, pointed out that the HT was within her rights, but practically nothing would be actioned in time before DD2 was registered with them.

A few minutes of shadow boxing later, and he'd kindly suggested he talk to the lady who deals with new pupils and see if he could push the registration process along. The lovely lady phoned a few minutes later and said 'would you like DD2 to start tomorrow?'

So, she starts full-time tomorrow. It's finished, I hope. I'm half inclined not to go back for her PE kit, tbh.

AuntStressie Wed 30-Jan-13 21:03:38

smile
Hope all goes well for your dd tomorrow. My ds starts at his new school tomorrow so hopefully he'll be a lot happier now too.

imogengladhart Wed 30-Jan-13 21:19:56

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Oh good luck!

Wow at the speed.....

LabelsGalore Wed 30-Jan-13 21:36:52

Wow, just wow.
And applaud how professional and on the ball the new HT seems to be.

lougle Wed 30-Jan-13 21:39:09

Thank you smile still traumatised though!

Star, I know, it's crazy!

Timeline:

Three weeks ago - had never even said more than 'good morning' to HT.
19 days ago - attendance letter and first discussion with HT, which was not encouraging.
Monday 9.00am - 2nd discussion - made clear that there would be no partnership
Monday 10.30am -friend phoned and offered to check for places at another school
Monday 12pm - phonecall to other school to enquire about a place for DD2 - offered initial meeting with head teacher for 6th Feb - declined and asked for speedy start date.
Monday evening -email to head explaining decision.
Tuesday morning - offer letter through post
Tuesday 5pm - email from head expressing disappointment.
Tuesday 6pm - email to head sharing regret and thanking for good wishes
Wednesday 10.30am - visit school to purchase uniform, hand in acceptance, proofs, etc. Come home and label uniform
Wednesday 2pm - DD1's carer arrives to check on DD2, I explain saga and as I go to read email I sent, I notice email threatening legal action.
Wednesday 2.15 -phone call to new head - unable to talk
Wednesday 2.20 phone call to inclusion officer
Wednesday 3pm - email from inclusion officer copying entry on database
Wednesday 3.30 - phone call from new head.
Wednesday 4pm - lovely lady confirms that DD2 can start tomorrow.

Utterly nuts.

PolterGoose Wed 30-Jan-13 21:50:46

Just wow!

Very best of luck for mini-lougle for tomorrow. How does she feel about it?

porridgeLover Wed 30-Jan-13 21:53:57

Thats fast.
I am delighted for you lougle.
I wish DD a lovely first day tomorrow and that its the first of many at her new school. Wine for you. wine

lougle Wed 30-Jan-13 21:57:55

DD2 is very excited and a little scared. We'll see tomorrow how she does.

LabelsGalore Wed 30-Jan-13 22:02:58

smile
Hope it will all go well tomorrow.

justaboutchilledout Thu 31-Jan-13 03:22:47

It must be nearly morning over there, just checking in to wish you luck today

lougle Thu 31-Jan-13 06:34:51

Thank you! Well DD2 is up and shrieking, so she sounds excited. Let's hope it continues.

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