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Tell me something positive and wonderful about your autistic child

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lottytheladybird Sat 26-Jan-13 14:49:56

We have suspected that our 2.5 year old DS1 is autistic for some months now. We had our appointment with the consultant paediatrician yesterday, who said that DS1 does in his opinion have an ASD. DS1 just needs to be seen by the specialist speech & language therapist now before they formally diagnose, which I'm almost certain they will.

Anyway, this whole process is hard, even though a diagnosis won't change anything really. So, please tell me something wonderful about your DC with autism.

NoPinkPlease Mon 28-Jan-13 09:08:04

Saintlyjimjams, thanks for posting those - darn it, another thread on here that made me get something in my eye... grin

Oh and finally a short video interviewing some of the coaches vimeo.com/55038180

Oh the surfers are all fab - he knows them all well.

This is on of the first respite centre surf trips - all 5 boys severely autistic, 4 of them pretty much completely non verbal http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S8zLZg2HSA8

Again, but on a sunnier day (and ds1 looking very fed up at the lack of swell!) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MrGugE7OsYU

And this was a while ago now, shortly after ds1 had started surfing regularly. A board's eye view on a sunny bank holiday Monday in August http://vimeo.com/28348727

If anyone wants to take their child surfing, talk to me smile grin

My DS is extremely quirky smile. He's an excellent mimic with a fantastic memory, he will narrate a full book or film including accents and sound effects.

Despite liking a sense of routine he's also very adventurous, and while I used to think I'd be dragging him into doing new things it's actually been the other way around. We are always planning adventures, note the planning though, they are planned to within an inch! grin

He has the biggest loveliest smile, people always comment on it, and he has a love for hats (he has quite a collection all chosen by him), which again are often commented on.

He is extremely honest and trusting, he's not greedy or vindictive, despite the things he struggles with I know that at his core he is a good, decent person.

LegoAcupuncture Mon 28-Jan-13 07:52:43

Well it doesn't look like the first time, they look so at ease with each other.

That was the first time that guy has taken him out (he's the owner of the surf school) - he was knackered after that. Usually there's a little small group of twenty something's that take him out. We've also got a small group from his respite centre - all severely autistic- out surfing regularly last year - will post a couple of videos later

kampa Mon 28-Jan-13 03:42:55

Thank you for starting this thread! My DS was diagnosed with asd last week and I have been struggling. I really needed this.

My DS is so full of enthusiasm for life and the world around him. "Oh, wow!" is something he says several times a day. He always notices the beauty of the small things.

He is so tidy! He loves cleaning and insists that it is HIS job to do the recycling and the vacuuming - my friends are envious wink

His teachers at school say he does not have empathy because he will do things that are unkind to other children when he gets stressed and then say he doesn't care about their feelings. Today I was feeling very upset and he asked if I was cold and brought me a blanket. I don't think he understands 'feelings', but I believe he is very caring and he does have empathy.

He is so bright and his love for learning is infectious and truly awesome. He can tell you what the capital city is of about 80 different countries. The other day he explained to me what gravity must be like on Pluto (similar to the moon), because it is the same size and mass as the moon and gravity depends on mass.

He's 4.

LegoAcupuncture Sun 27-Jan-13 22:47:44

Great, not grey.

LegoAcupuncture Sun 27-Jan-13 22:47:32

What a lovely video Jimjams. Thank for sharing. Your DS looks so at home on. Surfboard, and his instructor, well, just fab! What a grey relationship they must hve.

Ds1 is severely autistic, a teenager, non-verbal (although he has a communication aid now which has made a huge difference & he can say loads with that).

He loves surfing, especially when the waves are big, as can be seen here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oTkvJw4zNa8

If you want to see him in action with his communication aid then have a look at my profile for my blog.

LegoAcupuncture Sun 27-Jan-13 22:26:57

What a lovely thread.

Ds2 (7) has autism and dyspraxia, he was dxed At 2 1/2. He runs lie Phoebe off friends. Babies seem to love him and always laugh at him regardless of what he is doing. He was the only one who could make my niece laugh for weeks. He is always positive, gives everyone lovely compliments and lightens up my day.

lottytheladybird Sun 27-Jan-13 22:20:13

I have really really enjoyed reading each and everyone of your posts about your wonderful children. Thank you so much for taking the time to tell me about them.

whatkungfuthat Sun 27-Jan-13 17:39:42

My DS1 is 14. He is a kind, gentle giant and has the biggest smile in the world. With the right support and schooling he is studying for a couple of GCSE's, which we didn't think possible at even age 8 when all he did was run around or stare out of the window. He is intense and becomes an expert in whatever interests him at the time (trains, dinosaurs, fish) His best friend is a girl who he met when he was 4 in reception at a mainstream school, her brother has Aspergers and she is brilliant with him, he calls her his Princess.

neverputasockinatoaster Sun 27-Jan-13 17:10:35

DS is 8. He is single minded and focused. He is fiercely protective of his little sister. He can write beautifully and has an amazing memory. Whatever he does he does with such intensity.
He sees the best in everyone.
He is loving and funny and rocks my world.

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Sun 27-Jan-13 16:47:43

DS2 is gorgeous; completely, unashamedly egotistical; very bouncy and flappy but in an endearing way, despite being 13. He seems to elicit loyalty and compassion in his peers rather than teasing. Despite being completely lacking in empathy himself he seems to bring it out in others. He is either on top of the world or in the depths of despair, but switches from one to the other in seconds, holding no grudges. His laughter has that infectious quality of a much younger child.

I find that he has taught me the meaning of unconditional love, because I love every part of him entirely, even the less attractive parts and even though he will never say he loves me. It's almost a standing joke that he loves no-one. smile

Inaflap Sun 27-Jan-13 16:27:31

Flying boy is kind and just wants to please people. He has seldom said anythink bad about anyone and if he is doubtful about something, we have come to learn that he is usually right. He is great on the eather so very handy when you want to know what it is going to do. He has a greatbsense of humour and would patiently play with his younger brother for hour when they were younger.

FrustratedSycamoresRocks Sun 27-Jan-13 16:19:47

My dd is 4.7 she has autism and amazes me everyday. Whilst there are things that she can't yet do, the things she can she does with such determination and refusal to give up.

She didnt call me mummy until she was 4.3. And even though she can't yet say that she loves me, I know that she does, and even on the hard days I am still overwhelmed that she calls me mummy.

Her autism is part of who she is, and I wouldn't change her for the world.

PolterGoose Sun 27-Jan-13 15:51:46

Strong honestly, ds was traumatised, I had builders in who had taken down a fence so the whole drama was 'performed' in full view blush

It still makes me laugh to think about it, the dialogue was hilarious grin

rocket74 Sun 27-Jan-13 15:47:50

DS1 is 3.7 and is the most gorgeous blond hair brown eyed boy. It is like having a pet bear - sometimes he growls but he loves big hugs and kisses and his favourite food is porridge!! He can't tell us he loves us but I know he does. He climbs into our bed for morning cuddles and kisses his baby sister. His smile is out of this world. And he loves wearing hats. grin

Strongecoffeeismydrug Sun 27-Jan-13 14:22:40

Polter. I really did laugh out loud at washing and drying a wood louse smile

WilsonFrickett Sun 27-Jan-13 14:08:43

And a diagnosis did change something: us. - That is so true Mareeya

DS is now in his twenties and has ASD and learning difficulties. When he was little we were told that he would most probably never learn to walk, talk, read or write. He can do all of those and more.

He has the loveliest smile, a kind nature, is very cuddly and affectionate and is very good at bringing me cups of tea without being asked. He is very good at choosing interesting presents for family and friends.

He can read timetables and can find his way by train and bus all over the country and safely home again.

He currently has a job and manages to get there on most days and tries to do his best, although he is finding it difficult and a bit stressful.

He has made such huge strides since he was little. We are worried about his future, particularly when we are no longer here, but we also have faith that he will continue to develop and may yet surprise us all!

DeafLeopard Sat 26-Jan-13 21:13:49

DS is a gentle giant, he is steadfastly loyal, caring, kind and generous. His ASD is so much a part of who he is.

We are going through some teen angst at the mo, but even after a major strop he comes up and gives me a hug and apologises.

He would do anything for anyone - of his own volition he went off in the snow and cleared people's drives for them and collected a list of shopping requirements from all the elderly neighbours - for me to go fetch mind grin

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