We follow the same room guidelines. Mostly because I would hate to think 'if only' if the worst was to happen. It is interesting that people see some bits of fsid guidelines as more disposable than other. I just want no regrets. Ds is now 6 months but for ease he is still in with us although he is alone for an hour or so between his bed time and ours. We only did this in the last week though.
Why do you think it is seen as acceptable? If you read threads on here you will find lots of people who think it is acceptable to put their baby in their own room at 4 months, or 4 weeks, etc. I think you just mean it is acceptable to you! I agree with pp that it is seen as harder to do, but once you're in the habit of it it really isn't tricky to remember. (Not sure what I'd do if baby loved dark/silence though). And it's only for 6 months.
Our LO slept in our room until 6 months. Daytime naps he slept on us or the floor or the sofa with me next to him. I expect there were times I wasn't always in the same room as I would often nip for a shower when he slept.
We decided to follow the SIDS guidelines as it seemed like a no brainer to be honest. I failed to bf so I thought, well at least I'm doing the best I can regarding sleeps.
There's a thread further down called 'others who always have their baby in the room with them...' where we ended up talking about this. (not saying you shouldn't have this thread, just that there's a lot of replies that might interest you)
I do always have him sleep with me for guidelines reasons. I do find it interesting how this bit of the guidelines is not widely adhered to yet other bits are. But can't tell you why.
I think maybe because it is the hardest guideline to reconcile with day to day life? For every baby that will happily sleep downstairs with the telly and lights on every evening, there is a baby like my DS who needs peace and quiet and darkness (just like his mum!) we got round it by settling him upstairs in the evenings at around 7 and then tbh I was often in bed beside him by 8.30pm in the early months. We also had doors open, lots of checking on him, monitor on etc. For naps he wouldn't sleep at home for the first five months anyway, so wasn't a problem for us.
When thinking of all the SIDS guidelines, it appears to be acceptable to ignore the guideline about the baby sleeping in the same room as you, more so than the other guidelines.
Why is that, do you think?
Our 8 week old sleeps in our room at night. But in the evening we are downstairs while he is in his cot upstairs. And his daytime naps are either in his cot or in the sling, depending on how clingy he's feeling!
We feel comfortable about this, but try to follow the other guidelines as strictly as we can.