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help please. My 2 month old just screams come bedtime. I'm guessing she's overtired but nothing I do can seen to head it off. Sling/feed/white noise etc only works for a time then she works herself into a state of frantic full on screaming. Giving her to dh doesn't work - she goes mental. Bright red, tears everything.

This has really shaken my confidence - most evenings end in tears for us both and I just don't know what to do.

Please tell me it ends soon? Will she grow out of it? She's currently screaming now with dh as I need a break. I've even tried putting her down to see if it's just being held and rocked winding her up but that doesn't work either.

My firstborn used to do this too. Try googling 'evening colic'. If that is the cause she will grow out of it. It is very upsetting while it's happening - I used to hand mine to DH and go to sleep (but ours started at 3 weeks).

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My DS did exactly the same - you have my sympathy . It's evenings ( for me anyway) when I'm beyond tired myself!
It was a 'stage' for mine. She will grow out of it and don't let it shake your confidence. DS is 8 m now and stopped the evening screaming at 4ish months.

Please don't worry - cuddles for your dd and hugs for you.

How are her naps during the day? What do you usually do at bedtime?

Thanks I'll look up evening colic.

Rita she lives in the sling for naps - I try abdmaje sure she's not awake more than an hour at a time. As the day goes on, she is harder to get to sleep though. I'm noticing that as she gets older, she doesn't drift off as easily and I have to go to a dark room if I can or cover her eyes a bit. Difficult with a 2 year old in tow. DS was also a tough one when it came to sleep especially his naps so I was ready (or thought I was). Bedtime is very short - change, feed in dark. No proper routine as yet because she is so unsettled I figure it just makes it worse.

She's now stopped screaming and fallen asleep, head on boob. She won't be moved (pretty much has been like that from north!)

My Ds did this for a bit and it turns out he wanted to cluster feed . He dropped it at 11 weeks .I didn't realise because when had done cluster feeding in his first few weeks of life it had always been in the middle of the night My poor boy!

Oh Iggly I had to reply to you because it's not so long since I was in your shoes and it's a very difficult time. My adorable 11month old ds is sound asleep now but we had 10 weeks of distress at the start of his little life, he literally screamed every waking hour that he wasn't feeding. We put him on infant Gaviscon (requires prescription) and within a few weeks he was a different baby. I only took him off it at 10 months after several failed attempts where his distress returned. Please speak to your health visitor and don't underplay how distressing this is for all of you. I didn't do this for ds1 who i now know probably had the same problem. I thought it was just me being a novice first time useless mum (it wasn't!). My dd arrived and was a breeze and then ds2 was a nightmare so it's nothing to do with your experience or confidence levels. All I can say is bear with it in the mean time, you're almost through the worst of it (honestly) ds got 8 teeth with barely a whimper so it's not a sign of how she'll handle pain either.

The only relief ds2 got was (over!) feeding. He was a pudgy little pudding but I used warm milk to get him to sleep every night....he's normal sized now lol. Just do what keeps you sane, you'll be sending these responses to some poor soul in a few months time!

Good luck, keep us updated.

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Happy - she has silent reflux, as did DS so we've got medication. So pretty sure it's not that.
She also doesn't like feeding either! Or at least she gets into auch a state, boob seems like too much effort for her

Which is why it's hard as I've been here before although worse as DS was not a screamer kn the same way!

DS was the same. I used to swaddle him and lay him on my chest which occasionally worked but most of the time didn't! Walking up and down the stairs used to help sometimes (and helped to lose the baby weight!) He did grow out of it at about 3 months.

Sounds like colic to me. DS was similar. Cranial osteopathy did the trick for us <self confessed CO believer>
I feel for you it's awful.

DD was similar,cried every evening and we just had to walk and jiggle,put the hoover on or feed,dh used to dread coming home! She grew out of it at 12 weeks and although she's a horrific sleeper she's not a screamer anymore,in fact is now a very happy settled baby at 21 weeks so there's hope! It changed almost overnight for us. Good luck and sympathies!

tonight she has only grizzled - no full on screaming thank god. I kept her in the sling all day except for feeds and nappy changes. Tired though! However we've had respite evenings like this before only for it all to start again another day

For us also it took about 3.5 months for the screaming to go away, or at least reduce to a manageable level of crying. Thought it would never end but we just thought chin up, it will pass, nothing we did helped anyway so we just held her through it until she managed to drop off. A friend who suffered similar had told me she had felt her DD had to learn to calm down, and I think they were wise words!

yes DD does need to calm down. A screamer from birth - she was born angry!

My ds had evening colic, very unsettled. It defo helped to put him on his side to sleep, not his back. He just hated being on his back. A dummy also helped.