Who can afford private schools in the UK?

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wjchoihk Tue 12-Feb-13 17:18:43

Hi. I am not sure if this is an appropriate question to ask here. But I have always wondered how rich you should be to send children to private schools in UK. Fees are anywhere from 3000 up to 10000 per term. Even allowing for wide gaps in income, thinking of 'avearge' UK wage of 26,000 pound, math simply don't add up for a normal life with such high fees. I also know only 7% of children go private though.

How much of private parents live on "inherited" wealth and how much on simply superior current earnings? I have my kids at SW London privates but I wouldn't be able to afford this without current int'l expat package. Some parents at my kids' schools LOOK and ARE very very rich but most of them LOOK quite down to earth. But I can't ask....

grovel Fri 15-Feb-13 22:46:17

Cambridge mathmos are profoundly weird. Fact.

morethanpotatoprints Fri 15-Feb-13 22:42:00

Yep, was a goodun this! grin
So whats the answer then?

seeker Fri 15-Feb-13 22:40:28

I did say you were all incredibly socially confident..........

RussiansOnTheSpree Fri 15-Feb-13 22:37:06

Athough Grovel it was only from two people and many others queued up to be supportive. I don't see anyone standing up for us Cambridge mathmos. sadwink

grovel Fri 15-Feb-13 22:27:50

Because you've been consistent, articulate and hugely patient in the face of nonsense and prejudice.

grovel Fri 15-Feb-13 22:25:48

Well, seeker, you should feel proud.

RussiansOnTheSpree Fri 15-Feb-13 22:21:31

Clearly they are all extrovert mathmos annoyed at being wrongly categorised. wink

seeker Fri 15-Feb-13 22:18:43

Bloody hell, they pick now to intervene? hmm

pugsandseals Fri 15-Feb-13 22:18:40

MNHQ of course!

grovel Fri 15-Feb-13 22:16:28

pugs, is that at me or at MNHQ?

pugsandseals Fri 15-Feb-13 22:13:07

confused

grovel Fri 15-Feb-13 22:08:25

Why have you intervened, Olivia?

This seems to me to have been a relatively useful/interesting thread. Some patronising crap/ some ignorant crap etc (perhaps from me) but nothing nasty.

RussiansOnTheSpree Fri 15-Feb-13 22:06:03

Well, clearly you aren't talking about Cambridge then. Little bubble? grin

OliviaMumsnet (MNHQ) Fri 15-Feb-13 22:02:19

We know that this is a very divisive subject but would remind you of our talk guidelines
Thanks

pugsandseals Fri 15-Feb-13 21:41:55

As I've said before, I went to sec mod so wasn't expected to get in anywhere, as it was I got in somewhere half decent for my specialism. Not sure about numbers, probably less than 100. But a friend who's dd got in more recently summed it up beautifully. She said she was relieved her dd had got in as it would keep her safe in a little bubble for a few more years. She is an introvert who is also a bit clumsy & I know exactly what she means. DH always said he felt safe from the world & it's problems while there. He was another one who was kept safely occupied while his immature side grew up!

Yellowtip Fri 15-Feb-13 21:19:44

And one reason they come in all sorts is because the tutors actively seek diversity. Anything else would bore them to tears and make tutorials unworkable, or unrewarding at least.

seeker Fri 15-Feb-13 21:17:59

Must be a different Oxbridge, pugsandseals, that's all I can say.

teacherwith2kids Fri 15-Feb-13 21:17:26

Am a Cambridge graduate, 2 siblings and all siblings-in-law are Oxford graduates, and as a result know a fair cross-section of the products of both universities [not statistically significant, of course, compared to the 'total Oxbridge graduate pool', but up into the multiple tens or so] .

Only generalisation I would make is 'they're all academically clever'. Other than that, they come in all sorts - confident, shy, introvert, extravert, sociable, private, life and sould of the party, devoted homebody, wildly creative, absolutely conventional...

Yellowtip Fri 15-Feb-13 21:16:21

pugs but your own DH studied which of those subjects? You still haven't answered the question. I'm guessing Maths, since it's first on your list.

You seem to know a lot about the anatomy of your DH's interview and subsequent social life at uni, which is interesting. Yet you weren't there yourself? Where did you go then pugs?

Very, very surprised indeed that you find Law and Eng Lit students liable to be anti-social. Just, well, really surprised. Could you try to give us a rough idea of how many students we're talking about in this sample? 100? 200? More?

Copthallresident Fri 15-Feb-13 21:02:22

seeker OWN time, not part of any charitable justification. A teacher from a northern working class background who was so inspired by classics she trail blazed to Oxford . And wanted to help others to do the same. Personally my relationship with Latin was not a happy one but all grist to her elbow. Sometimes cynicism is misplaced.

pugsandseals Fri 15-Feb-13 21:01:01

'infuriatingly married' because of his lack of social skills of course! And to make SEEKER feel better, yes most of the Oxbridge types we have associated with studied maths, law, music or literature. So maybe not a fair selection. All definitely anti-social though!
And in answer to how DH got through the interview process without social skills, it was the Dutch courage that did it (truly embarrassed to tell you he had his head down the loo just a couple of hours before!). No I honestly don't have a clue how he got in!!!
Sorry for late post, had to go shopping.

seeker Fri 15-Feb-13 20:56:12

I'm sure it's not, BlueberryHill. I'm sure they've been running the Latin Clubs for years and years and years.

difficultpickle Fri 15-Feb-13 20:48:31

Eton paid for a neighbour's son to go to prep from his state primary and then on to Eton. Lovely boy and very bright.

I spoke to a school similar to Eton who were hugely encouraging about the level of bursaries available. I had emailed about one and got a call from the school's registrar to chat through the various options.

BlueberryHill Fri 15-Feb-13 20:47:44

I'm sure it has nothing to do with retaining their charitable status which comes with tax advantages.

seeker Fri 15-Feb-13 20:30:34

I didn't know that Eton pay prep school fees for two boys a year- that's good to hear. And full bursaries too- none of the private schools round here offer any full bursaries at all. Glad that some do.

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