Found out recently that DH has been using the above for over a year.
Our history:
married after 5 years
DD born a few months after wedding
now been together 6 years and a bit
He first contacted an escort a month before our wedding and again early this year.
A lot of web cam contact with other women. He had favourites, there is one woman he did stuff with via webcam 8 times.
Most shocking is that he mostly did the webcam stuff at home while I was there and awake. No idea how he managed to hide it.
I found out by reading credit card statement, he gave me login for the website he used for all this. He spent a lot of money when we were struggling financially.
He has been staying in a hotel since I found out and will move into his own place next week.
I've been to CAB to sort out benefits and I have set up regular counselling for myself. He has set up counselling for himself, been to see GP who put him on ADs. We will see a joint counsellor next week or the week after hopefully.
Anything else I need to do? What am I supposed to think about this? He says he doesn't remember most of what he's done and thinks it's mostly porn, whereas I think it's cheating. He also thinks that as he's managed to cut down a lot this year, that's what matters most.
He's also doing the whole 'I'm ill, poor me' victim thing, in my opinion.
I need to keep a clear head and not be sucked in by him as I would give anything for everything to be normal again.
Any thoughts appreciated.
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Webcams, phone sex, escorts - any thoughts?
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