I have ongoing, long term issues with inlaws, who are very critical of our parenting, life choices, how we spend our time/money - everything. It is in their nature to tell us both and DH younger sister what to do, how to do it, where and when.
I've had a number of stand offs with MIL, and a couple with FIL over everything from them telling us who should and should not be invited to the wedding, what flowers I should have, to how I should feed our babies (carnation milk in a bottle is the preferred route for their taste) and how I should not tell DS off, for running away from me. In front of our DS's.
DH and I argue about who/how/when/where to deal with this, every few months and I just wonder, how do we end this? It's not what I want for the rest of my life with DH. It affects our marriage.
For context, PIL have a lot of money and MIL has threatened DH before - if you do x you won't see a penny of my money. I think this is on his mind - as for me, I've come from a make your own life/money/home so it's not an issue. And DH's birth dad died when he was 18 months old, and MIL has reminded DH in front of me, that "she could have had him adopted, but didn't" and that when everyone else has gone - his sister, his step dad, me, the boys - it will just be her and DH at the end of the day. The power. I can't compete with it. And I don't want to.
Is it up to me to fix this? Or DH? Or both of us. I can't avoid them as we live next door to them - not attached, but next door. Playing in the garden with DS's always involves them coming out and I just want to avoid them altogether.
What do you think?
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Issues with in-laws - do I raise the issues or DH?
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BirdFromDaNorf · 04/04/2010 18:10
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