I am still sitting on my hands
We talked again, he agreed that my saying it's okay to go to India was a big deal in reality, and was aware many other people wouldn't get the same response from their DP. He said he was v. grateful. I also said I was not happy for this to be more than a one off, I offered up the compromise again - a week away a year doing his running/rock climbing stuff, but that if he made a regular habit of extended jaunts that there was no future for us. I didn't issue an ultimatum, I just told him that was how I felt, what he did with that info was up to him. He listened and although was disappointed at first, he agreed that what I said was fair, and he would have to wait to resume his wanderings when the DC are grown (and he can damn well take me with him ). He also listened when I told him about the state of the journalistic side of photography - he promised he wouldn't leave the engineering until he was sure he could justify it, that he would get a sabbatical from work for India trip rather than binning off job.
So I am still with him, and for the time being I am definitely sitting on my hands.
BTW Just found out am having a boy! 21 week scan was all a-okay