There are times when I totally agree. Just bloody get on with it! But not always

Do you still fancy him? I think there are lots of us out here who no longer fancy our man but know we have to do the deed as it is an expected part of married life. The objective is to get him to come asap and get it over with. Therefore hours of him foraging around down below is an annoying waste of time, I agree with you.

Sounds like you two need a weekend alone with each other and preferably away. When you refer to sex with your husband as 'the deed' at least three times within a couple of minutes, something needs addressing!

meant if dh wants it and is fimbling around i find myself getting bored and wishing to get on with the deed.

dh is always moaning that we dont spend much time on foreplay (huh yeah a i know a bloke moaning about lack of foreplay!). Thing is weve got two children 4 and and 17mths and im the main carer so im always knackered and not in the mood for sex. I want to in my head but my body just wants to go to sleep. So if dh wants i find myself getting bored or counting the minutes and wishing to just get on with the deed. I used to enjoy foreplay but sex is such an effort in itself. Once we are doing the deed i strat to enjoy myself-however as soon as its over i turn over and go sleep god i sound like such a man!!!!