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F*** buddy/friend situation

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I'm annoyed with myself, I've been good friends with this man for 2.5yrs ish, we've slept together a couple of times as F* buddy's, which at the time was fine & amazing sex. But after the 2nd time, I decided I couldn't do it anymore & stopped the f* buddy part and we were just friends.

Then we stupidly slept together tues/weds night + now hes not talking to me ? I have no idea why hes read the 2 txts i sent him but not replied..

What do i do here? jst leave it be now? not sure what to say or what ive done wrong ? !

any ideas?
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 04-Jul-09 18:15:41
Leave him alone. Find something/someone else to think about for the time being. You may be aware that you are not desperate for him to fall in love with you, but you are unfortunately, probably, giving him that impression because that's a little bit how you are coming across in your posting.
The thing about fuckbuddies is that, while they should always be people that you quite like (as in, no loons or total liabilities and definitely no knobbers who are violent or light-fingered), they are not partners and don't necessarily want to be in constant contact with you when you are not actually having or arranging to have sex.
The most likely time for a fuckbuddy set up to go wrong is when one of the parties has too much time on his/her hands and therefore starts thinking about The Relationship too much. Go and find something interesting to do. Don't text him again to say, sorry for being stalkerish as this will, unfortunately, look even more stalkerish and desperate. DO not contact him at all until he contacts you.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 04-Jul-09 16:32:30
I would leave it until you saw him face to face. If you just can't bear to wait then I would call/text/email him to say that you only want to be friends. But best to leave it and then act that way/tell him in person. And then just get on with being friends. Just don't keep digging a hole for yourself.

PS I am not judging you what two single adults decide to do. Life is short and to be enjoyed.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 21:53:53
Listen - if he is your friend, he will be in touch. It sounds to me that he is not such a good friend as you think.

Maybe you will have to write him off.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 14:20:24
Just to let you know that a delivery report only tells you that the text has reached the phone, it doesn't tell you that the message has been read, there isn''t a way of tracking when a message is actually read....
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 02-Jul-09 21:04:28
Nope. As I said, I regretted sleeping with him, and am happier as friends. But seemed to have messed that up blush
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 02-Jul-09 21:00:14
would you like to me more than his buddy??
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 02-Jul-09 20:43:43
Thanks, it was him asking, for 3 days, if he could "Come round for coffee wink " and I eventually let him blush

Now, he's blanking me. It kinda feels like an ego trail for him, by me txting him I'm chasing him? hmm

I've not txt since yesterday, and nothing, hes online but not talking hmm
Agree with Dior. And you know not to go there again. If all you fancy is a shag, maybe stay away from pals/mates and acquaintances so as to not interfere with friendships etc.

We all make mistakes though at some point in our lives and mistakenly shag someone we know we shouldn't have shagged. Hindsight is a beautiful thing grin
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 02-Jul-09 13:10:03
If he is a 'great friend', you won't have lost him. The second text was unnecessary though. Just leave him be and if he is a real friend he will call you.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 02-Jul-09 13:00:44
Well i've delivery notices on + it said delivered almost instantly so he'd read them both but not replied, either way i'll leave him be, he knows where i am.
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