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So i am completely stuck now in the middle of this and i dont want to be and dont know what to do.

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sunburntats Wed 01-Jul-09 22:18:49

Really close pals going through a very difficult time.
Getting txts from them both.
its so hard, i am trying to do right by them both and feel like i am badly failing.

I dont think that they will recover so keep expecting the husband to turn up at our house with black bin bags.

I am so stressed with it.
I am not commenting nor getting involved, just listening to them both. Its turning very nasty.

WWYD in my shoes?

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iMum Wed 01-Jul-09 22:20:31

I dunno, im in the same boat and feel useless realy-but it is sooo nasty. I have their kids over to play and by doing that feel im am in some way putting a bit of normal back into their lives.

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mumblechum Wed 01-Jul-09 22:20:52

Try very hard to say nothing about the other person at all, just listen. I went thru' exactly the same as you and the couple split up but then briefly reconciled and I was so glad I hadn't taken sides during the split as I would have lost at least one of them as a friend.

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sunburntats Wed 01-Jul-09 22:26:16

Yes, im trying really hard, also i have been taking the kids out of the situation when the volume starts to rise.

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SolidGoldBrass Thu 02-Jul-09 00:14:58

Say to both: I am not taking sides, I will listen but I do not want to hear bad stuff about the other person... maybe suggest Relate or something but then change the subject.

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