Hi all,
I hope I'm posting this in the right place (or somewhere close to it).
I was granted interim residency on Thursday 14th May for our DD (23mths old) as well as a prohibitive steps order.
On the day of the interim hearing, my ex took the opportunity to make some heinous accusations about me. Possibly rather than face up to the facts I had presented about her leaving her previous DD (my DD's half sister) in the care of a range of others, as well as the dates when my ex left me to care for our DD (including the final straw when she went to China for 9 weeks - yes it's me again)
So as she mainly ranted when we were with the CAFCASS officer, and then she walked out of the Judge's chambers, nothing was decided regarding contact.
Since then, my ex has become something close to a stalker - I have many many texts about us getting back together.
I thought about the contact a lot after the hearing, and decided that because not only could I not trust her, but also because of how she is (literally give an inch she'll do her best to take a mile) and how she treated DD when she has had access, that the only sensible solution was supervised contact.
Because that way, she wouldn't be able to rock up with a new boyf in tow, I wouldn't have to be subject to her love bombing alternating with her anger, and I could be sure that she wouldn't be able to take DD away for days on end on a whim. (Which is why we're here in the first place).
Current issue is - I've just had a letter from her solicitor.
This is interesting in itself as this week I've been getting texts saying she has nowhere to live (and presumably no job), and she was also calling my Dad to say she was homeless and penniless.
Her solicitor is saying my ex is not willing for contact to take place in the supervised contact place, and instead wants contact every weekend, either Sat or Sun from 9 till 2.
I'm tempted to try next weekend (already got plans for DD this weekend), but then I've literally just had two texts while writing this about she misses me and loves me. No mention of missing our DD, though...
Question is, can I refuse her request?
The supervised contact is currently to start July 11th, and will be for max of 3 hours as that's how long the place is open for.
I'm asking you guys as I'm more likely to get a response from a single parent with residency who's been through / going through similar things.
I suppose my main concerns are her taking off with our DD or making some sort of scene in front of DD.
PS sorry if I'm a bit disjointed, haven't had much sleep lately, and Social Services are visiting next Tues in relation to the accusations she made, so stress levels bit higher than usual.
PPS I don't answer her texts unless she asks about DD.
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Ex is refusing supervised contact, her solicitor talking about contact every w/end
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JuJusDad · 27/06/2009 13:30
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