Been married to dh 10 years. Got married quite young. Now I'm wondering if I was too young.
Our life at the moment is just like that of 2 lodgers in the same house. We're civil to each other but that is as far as it goes. No 'Good Morning', no cups of tea made,nothing, he sorts himself out as do I. I prefer it when he's working as me and the kids have a nicer day. He's not doing anything vastly wrong, he's not abusive or violent, there is just no spark any more. I never feel like having sex, he takes that as the ultimate rejection and has stopped even trying. Even though his trying was 'fancy a shag' not a nice meal cooked! Because of this lack of interest in sex he thinks it's funny to say I'm a lesbian, I get cross and he says he was only joking so I'm in the wrong for being too sensitive.
I know what the problems are - we don't spend time together, we never go out alone, don't even sit and watch TV in the same room. No kisses or cuddles. It's like we don't even really like each other. But this time just don't feel I have the energy to try and put it right.
Feels like he's forever asking me 'have you done this' or 'Didn't you buy any of this from the shop?' and 'where is my xxxxxx'
Every morning he's up early for work he doesn't even make me a cuppa, just says Bye and sods off.
Don't think I could tell him I don't love him anymore, it would kill him, but more and more I think that's how I feel.
Think we are on a slippery slope and this time can't climb back up. Don't even know why I'm typing this but feel better for doing so.
Am a regular btw, but real life friends post and know my posting name. Thanks for reading.
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If you don't love each other any more is it best to cut loose or plod along?
numbwoman · 07/10/2006 08:07
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