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partner just accidentally tx me this.....back door? xxx what u make of it

(64 Posts)
stella10 Mon 17-Jun-13 17:08:18

Just that really. Wen I rang and confronted him he made an excuse about old msg's coming through on phone. I know this to be bull. What do I do/say? He doesn't know I suspect yet?

lemonstartree Mon 17-Jun-13 17:10:14

he is cheating on you and text te OW to ask he if he should use the 'Back door' presumable to go into her house.

That is what I would assume, and I would proceed based on that assumption - ESPECIALLY as when you asked him he fed you a load of old bull s*it

What? He texted you "back door" I'm sorry I don't get it.

stella10 Mon 17-Jun-13 17:13:36

I think the same.....cheating! Although didn't think him capable but.... He'll lie if I confront him how do I get the truth?

KeepCoolCalmAndCollected Mon 17-Jun-13 17:13:49

Oh dear!
Where 'should' he be?
What time should he be coming home?

LalyRawr Mon 17-Jun-13 17:13:53

Same as Lemon

CinnabarRed Mon 17-Jun-13 17:15:32

He texted "Back door? xxx"? Just that?

Either asking whether to get into a building via the back door, or suggesting for anal sex.

PipkinsPal Mon 17-Jun-13 17:15:51

I took it to mean anal sex blush

NoRainNoRainbow Mon 17-Jun-13 17:16:48

What lemon said.

Trust your gut.

And the facts, he's lied to you. Old messages! It's insulting your intelligence, that doesn't really happen!

KeepCoolCalmAndCollected Mon 17-Jun-13 17:18:11

I took it that he is sneaking in somewhere and he doesn't want to be seen by anyone.

NoRainNoRainbow Mon 17-Jun-13 17:18:36

What should you do?

Have his bags packed and on the door step for when he gets home.

Seriously, life is too short to be head fucked by him, About either anal sex or entering a back door!

WildThongsHeartString Mon 17-Jun-13 17:19:05

back door and xxx?
Sorry but if there's kisses then it looks dodgy. If it was an old message with kisses on it surely it would have been to you originally as well.

Damnautocorrect Mon 17-Jun-13 17:19:21

Old message!! Screams guilt
I read it (assuming he's still at work) that he was getting someone to meet him at the back door

chinley Mon 17-Jun-13 17:19:45

Old messages?! LMAO. Does he think you're an idiot?

I thought anal sex not which entrance to use upon entering a house.

Where is he supposed to be?

lilmiss333 Mon 17-Jun-13 17:21:29

First time poster here, but had to reply. The thing with the phone may sound really odd but if it's a Samsung Galaxy they are notorious for it ( ive had two). They would send old/random texts to people especially if it had been turned on/off, so it does happen.

RoooneyMara Mon 17-Jun-13 17:21:37

I don't think you needthe truth as such - it would be enough for me to end the 'relationship' that he had lied to me and thought I was stupid enough to believe him.

What are you waiting for?

LemonBreeland Mon 17-Jun-13 17:21:46

If it was innocent then he would have explained who it was to. After all there could be many simple explanations to something like that, but his blustering nonsense shows he is up to no good.

HandsomeEddy Mon 17-Jun-13 17:21:48

Where's he supposed to be?
So you suspect foul play obviously. Did you have suspicion anyway?

SirBoobAlot Mon 17-Jun-13 17:22:31

Either anal sex or a back entrance to a building to avoid being seen.

Sorry. Either way he's lying to you.

usualsuspect Mon 17-Jun-13 17:23:17

He's arranging to meet some one by the back door.

nemno Mon 17-Jun-13 17:24:12

The first sign my old nokia phone was failing was random messages from ages earlier, but they were actual messages that I recognised and they were ones I had sent.

This sounds very dodgy. I thought a request for bum sex too and if it was to you he would have said.

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee Mon 17-Jun-13 17:24:26

It's not looking good sad

Though I have to say, I have an old phone and I use Virgin (ha ha yes I know) pre-paid and I do get old messages coming though again and again. It's a pain in the arse but fortunately hasn't made anyone pack my bags for me yet.

Think really hard about a) if there was anytime in the past he would have sent this message to you or b) who else he puts xxx on messages to (I'm a bit of an x bug in real life and put xxx on the end of most of my messages! - not only to significant other!) once to the builder but I try to forget about that

DragonsAreReal Mon 17-Jun-13 17:24:30

It could be true, it could be an old msg. I took it to mean anal but my phone has sent random old msg's before.

MexicanHat Mon 17-Jun-13 17:25:04

OP this reminds me of a recent thread. Text message accidently sent to wife instead of OW. That OP found out her H had been cheating although he denied it and lied as first. So sorry, it doesn't sound good.

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