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What's the consensus on cyber sex/flirting ?

(31 Posts)
Mosman Tue 05-Feb-13 14:52:18

Apparently some woman has just made my DH's Tuesday by getting back in touch, he will email her back in 40 mins ie when he thinks I will be in bed (in Australia).
But he'd better keep it clean this time, she remembers what he's like l o fucking l
I can see the emails, he's deleting them but not quick enough.

AnyFucker Mon 11-Feb-13 13:06:40

I am very sorry, Mosman

Please stop contacting the OW, no good will come of it

Tell your husband to leave.

GothJuice Mon 11-Feb-13 13:06:54

So he slept with her in 2007 and now she has got back in touch again?
Which country is the OW in?

Technoviking Mon 11-Feb-13 13:08:12

You need to stop focussing on the OW and focus on DH. He's the one egging her on and he's the one you need to deal with. Also, ram it home just how fucked you and the kids are now that he's uprooted you all and then slammed it all in your faces.

Mosman Mon 11-Feb-13 14:35:10

OW is in Brighton UK, he has been online flirting with her back in 2007, she knows about me and the children, if they met somewhere at best half way between them then he has travelled 200 miles - all that way having time to reconsider his actions, he then went to a hotel room and fucked her, presumedly buying condoms along the way.
So fast forward to 2008, I asked repeatedly if this had happened, he was distanced, not kind to me and staying up late online when I was asleep, he denied it.
He sent her an email in 2009 which she replied to last Tuesday and my world fell apart - i knew again he was lying, can't put my finger on it but I just knew.

I know it's him that deserves both barrels but the children would see so i've put off punching him in the gob for now and am tempted to email a photo of my children to all her friends on facebook because if she can feel a tiny bit of the humiliation and anger I do right now then i want her too.

JakeBullet Mon 11-Feb-13 14:41:53

sad Mosman, I am so sorry to read this. Stay strong. ..it's great that you have good friends out there.

What happens if you need to separate from him? Are you entitled to ANY help out there?

Mosman Mon 11-Feb-13 14:44:16

Not until his PR comes through, so 4 months away at least, I don't even have my airfare home, not that i'd run home - what to - we've moved, it's done whatever happens next happens in Australia.

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