I am separated from dh. Due to money reasons, we are both still in the same house though he is moving out the end of the month. Things are still amicable between us and we have 3 older children.
I have met and am seeing someone else, who is also separated and also due to financial reasons, is living with his wife and children. Him and his wife are both on facebook and both don't describe themselves as married to each other.
My issue is that he may be far less separated than me. Dh and I have both accepted that the relationship is over and are on friendly terms. Though new man did not tell me at first, I am getting the creeping suspicion that his wife is not all together happy with the separation - there have been a few friends of his who have mentioned this to me though in the same breath have said that her ideal situation is to have a divorce but she is not sure practically how this will be achieved.
it is, I think, none of my business but on the other hand, I like to think of myself as an 'honest' person and do not want to be involved with someone where I might be causing additional pain or where the situation is not as honest and open as I think it might be (from my side, I have no concerns about this).
My head is telling me to walk away till his and her issues have been resolved but my heart has started falling for this man and says look give him a break, you are in a similar situation and in all honesty, I am starting to meet more and more people who are having trouble running 2 households in the current financial climate and end living together longer than they want to until they have money for a deposit on a new rental place etc. (which is what happened with us). Of course in the ideal situation you'd wait to start anything before you leave but sometimes that just isn't practical.....
what do you think? am I being a fool?
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readybrekkie · 30/01/2013 17:10
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