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Fed up with chivalrous DH!

(51 Posts)
sexlifedisaster Fri 11-Jan-13 14:26:51

I feel mean, but I'n fed up with DH.

He works from home, so is usually here, except for one morning a week.

This week he came home, and told me he'd offered to put up an aerial for someone (this is NOT his job at all). He insinuated it was for a man, who was single, and unable to do it himself.

Having sneaked a look at the address, I realised it was actually a woman. I don't know how he came to be in a position to offer, as he works alone in an office; this woman may even work there.

He's bought the aerial, but she is supposed to pay him back. He's chargung £10 for his tine, which was supposed tto be 2 hours.

He went yesterday morning, not returning till 5pm. Then said the aerial didn't work, so he went back this morning (still not home).

I'm not well, and the cough has affected my asthma, so walking around could land me in hospitak (as has happened numerous times), which I don't want to risk with my toddler.

Yet we are out of milk, sugar & bread, which wouldn't have been a problem if the job had taken less time. I'm also very depressed, as well as feeling ill.

When I tried to talk to dh, he got angry, saying I didn't like having him going out to work... err... it's cost him money & £10 fot two days, is hardly worth it (if he gets the money back for the first aerial, otherwise we'll have lost money).

I also don't trust him. He took his son to start army training on Sunday & told me the only parent he talked to was a single mum... why he asked I don't know. He also got lost at the barracks, ending up in the female quarters, watching the female recruits changing.

We never have sex, I brought it up the other night, but he had a 'headache'.

There are loads of other things: Using adultwork, filming naked women on the beach with his first family, helping out a female 'friend" against my wishes (ex fwb - he admitted that she was inventing things to see him).

Sorry for mistakes, havibg to use phone as
he's blocked MN on our router after seeing my last thread.

BelleoftheFall Fri 11-Jan-13 14:29:13

", filming naked women on the beach with his first family, "

Have you posted about this before?

Because I think I read your last thread if so and he sounded extremely creepy back then as well. He is NOT chivalrous, he's a law-breaking creep who violates women's privacy. And probably a cheat as well.

TeaBrick Fri 11-Jan-13 14:29:27

"He also got lost at the barracks, ending up in the female quarters, watching the female recruits changing" WTF? This on its own is bad enough, without all the other stuff. If he's not careful he's going to end up getting himself arrested, adn rightly so.

Sugarice Fri 11-Jan-13 14:29:34

Do you think he is really putting an aerial up?

I'm sorry OP but he sounds vile!

TeaBrick Fri 11-Jan-13 14:30:04

Leave the pervert!

I was wondering if you have posted about him before as well.

What do you get out of this relationship now?. Why are you still there?

CogitoErgoSometimes Fri 11-Jan-13 14:34:18

Two whole days to put up an aerial? And he has history of doing something similar? hmm Crappy husband, I call it... not chivalrous in the slightest

HotDAMNlifeisgood Fri 11-Jan-13 14:35:22

He sounds like a complete creep. Poor woman he's put up an aerial for!

And I know this isn't the biggest problem with this man, but he seriously charged her for his time when this is not his job and something he was doing as a "service" for a colleague? Pervert AND tight.

badinage Fri 11-Jan-13 14:35:47

He's not chivalrous.

He's a pervert and a criminal.

And you're an enabler.

He's a weirdy perv, not chivalrous.

Sugarice Fri 11-Jan-13 14:37:40

Plus he's trying to block your access to Mumsnet after seeing your last thread!

Why the hell are you still with this vile man!

He sounds truly odd and unpleasant OP, what a horrible situation to be in sad

JambalayaCodfishPie Fri 11-Jan-13 14:38:47

*chiv·al·rous
/ˈSHivəlrəs/
Adjective
(of a man or his behavior) Courteous and gallant, esp. toward women.
Of or relating to the historical notion of chivalry.*

Getoutofmygumboot Fri 11-Jan-13 14:39:00

Are you for real op, seriously you are I a relationship with a pervert! Filming families on the beach????? He should be in jail, you can't really love this bloke? If you want get better I suggest you get you and you child the fuck away from this disgusting man.

In fact I can't believe you had a child with him confused there is no way I would want my dd anywhere near him even if he was her father.

I'm sorry but I don't have any sympathy for you, you know what he is like and you choose to stay, why???

sexlifedisaster Fri 11-Jan-13 14:41:26

I'm not sure she's a colleague. Think he inly met her this week. To be honest I'd livid he's doing it at all. I don't see why he should offer to hekp 'random' women at all... our fence has needed repairing for ages

OxfordBags Fri 11-Jan-13 14:41:48

Repeatedly commiting criminal sexual offences is not my idea of chivalry.

MooncupGoddess Fri 11-Jan-13 14:42:50

Not AGAIN sad

izzyizin Fri 11-Jan-13 14:43:20

Oh come on. This has to be a wind up. Surely no woman could possibly remain living with a pervert man like him?

CogitoErgoSometimes Fri 11-Jan-13 14:43:39

You're mostly bothered about a fence? hmm

Getoutofmygumboot Fri 11-Jan-13 14:44:11

All you worried about is the fact that he 'helped' some with an arial,wtf??? Honestly, you need to get your priorities right.

Leverette Fri 11-Jan-13 14:44:15

You posted about this voyeuristic, deviant pervert before.

No wonder you're depressed.

He stands and watches female soldiers changing??!

I think your view of what's normal is seriously distorted.

OwlLady Fri 11-Jan-13 14:44:33

is your toddler his son/daughter?

he doesn't sound right at all

MooncupGoddess Fri 11-Jan-13 14:45:24

Well, the OP has been regularly posting along these lines for about two years, as I recall, so I tend to believe she's genuine. Most trolls simply wouldn't have the stamina.

You don't need to accept this. You've written a dozen reasons to go, do you need help to get him to go?

I find it odd that this annoys you soo much when everything else he has done sounds bloody awful.

Hullygully Fri 11-Jan-13 14:46:07

I think he sounds FABULOSO!

A definite keeper!

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