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Would you have the app "tiger text"?

(30 Posts)
nilbyname Wed 05-Dec-12 21:04:01

I have just got an I phone. DH has one, all the apps he has downloaded are available to me now as we have one i-tunes account. So far so good. Except he has an app for "tiger text" which after some googling around is an app that makes sure your texts are deleted and cannot be traced. Further googling tells me it is the best app for cheating.

My DH is a devoted husband and father. This is just not him, at all. Tell me tiger text is nothing to be worried about?

BluelightsAndSirens Sat 08-Dec-12 16:03:56

Glad it's all sorted and hope your daughter feels better soon

nilbyname Sat 08-Dec-12 15:17:59

Hi, sorry for not coming back sooner, DD is poorly.

Yes everything is fine, DH was a bit bemused at the app and said he must have downloaded it ages ago on the behest of his work mate who said it was a free text app. He said he has nothing to hide and we looked at his phone together. He was a bit hurt that I jumped to that conclusion, but we are fine now.

He is an amazing guy, so I do need to have a word with myself really.

Thanks for all your input and wise words.

EdithWeston Fri 07-Dec-12 13:11:14

nilbyname: did you talk to him last night as you hoped? How are things today?

SantaIAmSoFuckingRock Thu 06-Dec-12 13:04:19

my friend's relationship has just ended as she discovered (by accident, she was plugging his phone in to charge) he had an text hiding app. the alert flashed on his screen and it had the access sequence on it so of course she couldn't leave it at that, she typed in the code and found all these message to other girls and ones to his brother saying he had slept with one of the girls.

i'd be suspicious in your situation.

nilbyname Thu 06-Dec-12 12:59:53

Sorry yes I should have picked up but honestly I feel quite bewildered by the whole thing, he is home tonight and we can talk it over then. I should have waited till then anyway.

dequoisagitil Thu 06-Dec-12 11:10:21

Have you some other reason to doubt him?

On the face of it, one iphone application that can be used both benignly and as a tool for cheating does not a cheater make.

But if your instincts are saying otherwise, maybe you need to dig around some more.

Sorry, nilby, run that by me again - your husband tried to call you last night but you didn't pick up because you had nothing to say to him? What has the poor sod actually done for you to ignore him like that?

EdithWeston Thu 06-Dec-12 08:34:22

I think that you might want to consider having another chat to your DH. Explain to him that you know from all his other actions that he is the devoted husband and father (as you say in OP), but that finding this made you feel really unsettled because it's known to be recommended for those covering their tracks when having an affair. Explain how much an affair would hurt you, and use this as an opportunity to affirm what your marriage means to you.

This will foster emotional intimacy between you in a healthy relationship.

If you don't think this is a good thing to do, pause and ask yourself why.

SquishyCinnamonSwirls Thu 06-Dec-12 08:04:03

If nothing else is bothering you, and he's not being secretive etc then I'd assume it's just something he's downloaded without nefarious motivation.

Only4theOlympics Thu 06-Dec-12 07:59:59

I have something on my phone that opens up random shortcuts on the front page of my phone. I think it is a virus. I get links to wonga, flirt text stuff and all sorts. I delete them immediately buy have no idea where they come from or what most of them are.

nilbyname Thu 06-Dec-12 07:53:12

distrusting what are the red flags?

He tried to call me again last night, but I didn't pick up as I had nothing to say to him. He will prbably be angry that I distrust him, I dont know even if I do....my head hurts.

Distrustinggirlnow Thu 06-Dec-12 07:29:31

Sadly I talk from experience and from what you describe, if there is anything going on then he will be using his blackberry, not his iPhone.
Unless you have any other reasons to be suspicious, then I'd say it is exactly as he says it is.
Maybe you could ask to see his blackberry as one of your friends has one and is raving about it as better than an iPhone and you wanted to have a look to see what the fuss is about....
I don't want to post the red flags I should of heeded, but if you'd like to see them ask and I will!
Xx

ecclesvet Wed 05-Dec-12 21:41:10

Why don't you ask him?

nilbyname Wed 05-Dec-12 21:39:54

yes...well there is that yuffle I just spoke to him and asked him and he was like, I have no idea what it is, what is it? I downloaded lots of apps and then never use them.

He was not defensive at all, hmm.

I will sleep on it.

YuffieKisaragi Wed 05-Dec-12 21:32:02

tbh then I would say its probably innocent. There are loads of wifi based text services that don't charge for texts (and indeed picture messages - I get free texts but not pic messages and they're about 12p), probably someone he knows has told him about it and he's downloaded it.
If he is cheating +which I doubt) he's a fucking idiot for having the app on a shared itunes account lol.

BluelightsAndSirens Wed 05-Dec-12 21:25:14

If it was me I would "loose" his phone for a day or two to see what is being received, don't forget to turn it off when you take it because you can activate an alarm to sound from another device and an email will be sent to say it has been switched on and activated so be careful.

nilbyname Wed 05-Dec-12 21:22:28

He has a blackberry for work confused so iphone is just for personal. If he wanted to cheat he would use the blackberry as I never even look at that one, and dont want to mess with it as it is the work phone.

nilbyname Wed 05-Dec-12 21:21:16

no none, but it is a bit of weird one, I think I should just ask him. He is away tonight though. Bugger. Wont sleep now.

BluelightsAndSirens Wed 05-Dec-12 21:20:54

Looks to me like it can be used as a business app to send group emails to a set of contacts.

Does this sound like something that would be useful in your DHs career?

It wasn't named after Tiger Woods actually. However it does seem to be, according to google, the ideal cheaters text tool.

Alternatively he could have downloaded it because all of his friends or workmates have it and therefore texts won't cost anything, much the same as Viber or those type of apps.

Why not just ask him what it is? Is there any reason for you to be suspicious, other than this?

AnyaKnowIt Wed 05-Dec-12 21:18:04

Well he wouldn't need to hide his phone, you can set it up so the text deletes itself

I have a similar app that uses wi-fi. It means I can send pictures of my son to his dad without been charged. It can also be used instead of texts. Just ask him.

My friend has it and has a partner who knows she does. He isn't bothered. If you are worried just ask

nilbyname Wed 05-Dec-12 21:14:35

yuffle he is not secretive about his phone at all. I know all his passwords, we share everything. I just do not get it. What would be the motivation to have such an app??

YuffieKisaragi Wed 05-Dec-12 21:13:17

It doesn't show up on phone bills because its a wi-fi based service, like whats-app or imessage on the iphone. He may very well just have it for that reason, to save on text costs. Keep an eye though, see if he is secretive with his phone etc.

nilbyname Wed 05-Dec-12 21:12:42

this is shit isn't it?

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