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dp just told a waitress she's gorgeous...

(78 Posts)
Dunkinbiscuits Sat 17-Nov-12 21:41:29

just having a nice romantic meal and dp said to waitress 'you're gorgeous you are' !!! Right in front of me ffs- i threw a wobbly and now hes sat outside as i finish the bottle of champers at the bar alone - feeling pretty shit tbh :-( am i over reacting?

YANBU. Wtf was he thinking?

picnicbasketcase Sat 17-Nov-12 21:43:55

Not the wisest of things to say whilst he's in a date really. Does he usually eye up other women or try to chat them up right in front of you?

HoolioHallio Sat 17-Nov-12 21:45:18

Urrrgh. I hope he's suitably mortified.

onedev Sat 17-Nov-12 21:45:23

Horrible. I actually think I'd finish with someone who is that disrespectful to me. Hope you feel better.

dibs78 Sat 17-Nov-12 21:46:20

That's awful!!! Poor you! How was the night going up to that point? Was he drunk?! Is he usually so disrespectful to you? Hope you're ok x

Whatnowffs Sat 17-Nov-12 21:48:44

My God, what a creep, i bet the waitress thought he was a wanker as well!

dibs78 Sat 17-Nov-12 21:52:35

Btw- well done for staying and finishing the champers....smile

Beamur Sat 17-Nov-12 21:55:42

Oh dear.
That's a shame.
My DP wouldn't say it to the person, but he would tell me if he thought someone was attractive - but I know he's not saying it to wind me up or upset me, it really is just an observation - like 'that's a nice building' or 'she was a pretty girl'.
Complimenting someone other than your partner during a romantic meal though is pretty lacking in tack!

Pochemuchka Sat 17-Nov-12 22:04:22

Poor you! I would be livid too.

I'll never forget when I was heavily pregnant with DD and me and DP went out for a meal with another couple and I was all dressed up and feeling great.
We went into the restaurant and he commented on a woman in there saying 'don't worry pochemuchka, you'll look like that again soon' shock angry

I spent the rest of the night seething after I'd torn him off a strip and he had a lot of making up to do.

Your DP needs to get back inside and start making things up to you.

lotsofcheese Sat 17-Nov-12 22:10:17

I hate to say this, but if he's saying stuff like that in front of your face, what is he doing behind your back?

PickledFanjoCat Sat 17-Nov-12 22:12:43

What a slimey thing to do. No your not overreacting. There's nothing wrong with finding other people attractive but saying it like that upset you and has probably embarrassed the waitress too.

Did he think he was being humorous?

Dunkinbiscuits Sat 17-Nov-12 22:59:28

Thanks for replying, I thought maybe I'd flown off the handle a bit, made me feel really shitty tbh, walked back to the hotel on my own and had to wait for housekeeping to let me in, he's come back and thinks I've been somewhere between the restaurant and here?!? Wtf - yeah, quickly down an alley with a waiter??? Bloody hell, I give up!!!

Wishfulmakeupping Sat 17-Nov-12 23:02:08

That's Horrible my OH agrees that was a shitty thing to say

Iamnotamindreader Sat 17-Nov-12 23:04:20

So he's been an arse and tries to deflect the blame back on to you by accusing you of a one night stand.
He's so classy.

HokeyCokeyPigInAPokey Sat 17-Nov-12 23:04:28

What a shit thing to do, hope you're ok.

Dunkinbiscuits Sat 17-Nov-12 23:06:23

Feel like getting the first flight home tomorrow on my own :-( I know he's drunk but I've stuck by him through thick and thin - bit of a kick in the nuts tbh :-(

BloominMarvellous Sat 17-Nov-12 23:08:22

Wow!!!!! What a total fucker!!!

I was once told after an ex was eying up a waitress very obviously that I was only jealous as I couldn't pull off that skirt hmm

You don't deserve that OP!!! You were not overreacting at all!!!!

TheDarkestNight Sat 17-Nov-12 23:09:15

Does he have any good points?

No, YANBU. I know the thread isn't in there.
And he's making you feel bad, because he obviously left you to walk back from the restaurant on your own after he had made a dick of himself.
Hope you are ok.

MmeLindor Germany Sat 17-Nov-12 23:12:27

Does he do this kind of thing often? It is very disrespectful to you.

Startail Sat 17-Nov-12 23:12:56

DH would say to me that waitress is pretty, beautiful etc., but he wouldn't say it to her.

DH was eying up the language students (you can't move in Bath in summer for huge groups of these) on our second date so 24 years later I don't expect him to improve.

However, neither he or I are particularly good looking and neither of us cares.

Blatant flirting is another matter.

Dunkinbiscuits Sat 17-Nov-12 23:14:43

He's asleep - how do they sleep??? Have had a good whinge to the reception girls and they both agree he was out of order - need to try and sleep, another Day of work tomorrow :-( what a Dick hey?

I love that you've told the reception girls. I hope they give him hacky looks in the morning.

FermezLaBouche Sun 18-Nov-12 08:21:48

Is your relationship so dismal all the time? Hope you're feeling less shit this morning and he's woken up very contrite, though I rather think he will have latched onto the idea of you "doing something" with someone before getting back to the hotel.

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