I posted recently about how I was on the verge of having an affair... I know it is wrong and I know I should be in control of what I am doing and feeling but I am still finding it hard. At the moment it is still 'virtual' because he is overseas. Although I have no doubt it would be classed an affair from what has been said. We email/text/chat/FaceTime. It is an old boyfriend who I always thought was the love of my life and still do. The thing I need help with is this...please....how do I get him out of my mind? Time hasn't healed (20 yrs later) and we hVe been in touch again now for nearly a year. I have lots of distractions (including 2 kids) but they just aren't doing the trick for me and I want to know how to get him out my mind and stop thinking and wondering about him. Or do I just accept that as for the last 20 yrs I will always think and wonder. My husband is a good man and cares about me and we are having counselling at the moment as things have been going downhill for about 1.5 yrs. I like him and get on with him but don't fancy him or feel any passion for him. In my last posts I wasn't sure where this 'affair' was going and obviously was told in no uncertain terms it should not go anywhere. It hasn't. But how do I get him out my mind and fancy my husband again? I find myself crying all the time about it ...making breakfast, picking the kids up etc and I just wish I could get him out my head. I'm inexperienced at posting so please forgive if I've missed anything etc but last time all your words were so helpful...both the supportive and not so supportive ones. Thank you
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