I can see a thread for people in one and one about red flags, but is there one for people who are now single and have woken up to the fact that there never was a relationship and they've wasted years of their life on a total arsehole?
I've been single 3 months now, well nearly a year technically but he only moved out 3 months ago after he showed his children his true colours.
I'm doing the freedom programme and reading books, but I feel as though i'm blocking the emotion about it all. I can now see that he never felt anything for me and just used me. We were together 6 years and have a baby and 4 yr old. I'm much happier now i'm free from him and my son's behaviour is much much better, but I feel such an idiot and i'm sure everyone is judging me. It's hard to be happy all the time, which I have to do for the children. 4
I was abused as a child and have had 4 abuisve relationships, plus 1 with a total nutcase for a few months who ended up nearly killing me.
I really don't think i'll ever meet a normal decent man, so it looks like its just me and my sons forever. I don't even know how I let all of this happen, i'm not stupid and can spot abusive men. Although I did see what he was doing right from the start, but everyone told me he was lovely and it must be me. I really thought I was going mad for a long time and now I know i'm not and it was him, I can't help thinking about all those wasted years and my poor children who have such an arse for a father :(
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Amitolamummy · 25/05/2012 22:09
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