Excuses

[KarmaK]

Anyone else constantly make excuses for other people's poor, disrespectful behaviour?

Your 'friend' routinely arrives ONE HOUR late for your outing without even apologizing for his/her lateness. You shrug it off, time after time.

Your friend is usually in a foul mood, slagging everybody off and when you ask how she is providing you with a long list of physical and emotional problems but never asking how YOU are. You just let them use you as a sort of free therapist to rant at.

How do you break out of this cycle?

[issey6cats]

you tell her that this is what she does and if she dosent start considering you sometimes you slowly drop this friend and make other friends

[chocoraisin]

stop calling her. Stop asking how she is. Stop caring about her problems. Show her exactly the same regard she shows you.

I did this recently with a 'friend' of mine, and unsurprisingly, we've not been in touch for 6 months - if I am not in charge of calling/making arrangements etc she simply doesn't bother. So I guess that means 'we' are not friends, I was a friend to her, but she wasn't a friend to me. I was worried I would be dropping her, but reflecting on it - she dropped me without a backwards glance!

No great loss though is it really, when you think about it.

[KarmaK]

Cheers Chocoraisin xx

[NicNocJnr]

Is this the same 'friend' as the other thread?

She doesn't sound worth it to me. I agree with Cocoraisin, if you stop making the effort you'll soon see how little she made and probably won't see her again unless she wants something.

[Taghain]

For a start, if someone is one hour late, you start doing it on time. In other words, don't wait more than a few minutes.
If they can't be bothered to turn up at the agreed time, they're telling you that they can't be bothered about you.

[Maghribia]

I used to do this, now I just can't be bothered, I've run out of puff. I now make sure I don't make effort when it's not mutual. Easier said than done but life is so much simpler :)

[EclecticShock]

Stop seeing them. Who you spend your time with has a massive effect on you. If they make you feel shit, cut your ties, life is too short.