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I have had a bad lurgy making me utterly miserable for a week now. So far DH has....

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Habbibu · 07/09/2010 18:25

Got up with ds at whatever stupid hour he wakes.
Given both children pretty much all their meals
Taken dd, and, when necessary, her friend, to preschool and collected them
Bathed ds and put dd to bed (I bf ds at bedtime)
Kept house pretty tidy and kitchen sparkly clean
Cleaned out the fridge
Taken me for brunch when I felt I was rallying - bad idea in the end, but lovely at the time.
Made me a birthday cake with dd.
Kept children entertained a lot of the time (they sit and play in a travel cot next to his desk. DD think's it's hilarious, and ds just loves being with dd and daddy).
Kept me fed, watered, medicated, boiled hot water for bath when tank ran out and I was desperate to get warm.
Gone to the shop for anything I've needed
Been very very sympathetic to me
Ensured there are always washed dried nappies for ds
Cancelled going to a Scotland football match tonight without so much as a murmur- he rarely goes, and really enjoys it.
AND - carried on doing his own job (academic trying to write a book) without so much as a disgruntled glance.

So, in essence, he's done my job (SAHM), his job, and nursed me. How am I ever going to repay this? He says "but you do the same for me" - well, partly, but don't write your damn book, that's for sure.

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CheerfulV · 07/09/2010 18:38

He is a fecking saint! You lucky, lucky woman! How lovely to see a thread like this, as well. Makes a change. There are nice fellas out there... Grin

Habbibu · 07/09/2010 18:39

Thank you! He is a star. I've just told him what you said, and he says "but what would everyone else do?" .

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toothgenie · 07/09/2010 19:09

He's lovely, your post is very refreshing on here. Hope you're fully recovered soon.

Habbibu · 07/09/2010 19:19

I've just seen him put dd to bed and take yet another load of nappies to wash. What am I going to do to show him what all this means to me?

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CMOTdibbler · 07/09/2010 19:58

He's being fab !

For the last 3 weeks DH has had to help me get dressed, brush my hair, open things, help me cook etc etc, and spent a week and a half running the house, looking after ds and coming to the hospital every day. Oh, and went out and bought clothes that would go on over my external fixator and then cast, and which I could manage. This'll be going on for ages yet, and my pitiful thanks have been met with 'but you'd do it for me' - which is true, and what love is really about I suppose

Habbibu · 07/09/2010 20:01

Oh, CMOT - what happened?

and yy to what love is really about. But I can hear Flower of Scotland on the radio as he sits trying to catch up on work. Oh dear. KInd of hope it's raining in Glasgow so at least he's missing out on a drenching.

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CMOTdibbler · 07/09/2010 20:19

Broke 6 bones in my wrist, dislocated it, and done enough other damage that I currently only have movement in one finger Sad A right bloomin mess.

Hope you are feeling better soon

Habbibu · 07/09/2010 20:28

Oh no! How did that happen?

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CMOTdibbler · 07/09/2010 20:51

Fell off a horse, and landed entirely on my bent wrist...

Habbibu · 07/09/2010 20:53

Ouch! Get well soon, and kudos to your lovely DH as well.

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CarGirl · 07/09/2010 21:00

What can you do to repay him?

Lots of passionate sex as soon as you are feeling up for it plus breakfast in bed for a fortnight.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 07/09/2010 21:01

Habbibu he sounds wonderful :) Hope you, and you CMOT, are feeling better soon.

My DH is of the good sort too. I've had morning sickness/all day nausea for weeks now and DH has started his new job and made a fantastic first impression while also picking up most of the cooking, nearly all the childcare when he's in the house, keeping the house vaguely straight, keeping on top of the laundry including nappies and generally being a star.
I've not been doing nothing, but it has been so nice not to have to face the fridge and the smell of things cooking

Tippychoocks · 07/09/2010 21:06

We don't get enough nice H stories do we? He sounds like a lovely man. Would he have a brother at all?

Habbibu · 07/09/2010 21:09

Ha! That may have to wait until ds stops waking up every 1.5 hours all bloody night...

On the plus side, Liechtenstein are winning, so he's quite pleased he's not there.

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Tippychoocks · 07/09/2010 21:10

No Habbibu, I meant does your lovely DH have a brother. A John Cusack lookalike but equally helpful and caring brother who is willing to relocate to Devon perhaps?

Habbibu · 07/09/2010 21:13

x-posts, Tippy - I was replying to carGirl!

He does have a brother - lovely as he is, not sure he quite meets all your requirements.

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Tippychoocks · 07/09/2010 21:15

Sorry Habbibu, I thought it was an odd reply but put it down to your cold.
Sad re the brother. I don't think I have unreasonable requirements WinkNever mind Smile

Aitch · 07/09/2010 21:16

AND he is handsome, ladies. HA ND SOME.

i have spent all day in bed with some lurgy and dh has been vg as well, to be fair. cupsa tea and toast. he is watching the match, though, obv.

Habbibu · 07/09/2010 21:22

Well, if we lived where you do, Aitch, it'd have made more sense for him to go. Need to find a good away match for him to go to, I think.

And yy - he's gorgeous. Hurray for me!

Tippy, it's a lurgy. I have antibiotics. I never have antibiotics.

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Tippychoocks · 07/09/2010 21:24

Now I am confused, if Aitch says your DH is handsome then it follows that maybe the brother is too........

Sorry, lurgy, not cold. Very Bad Lurgy Grin

Habbibu · 07/09/2010 21:30

Um, well - BIL is lovely, and funny as anything, and not bad looking, just doesn't really look like DH, who is a fox. BIL did live in Devon briefly, shooting a film for which he never got paid. Don't know if that's coloured his opinion of the place...

How did this thread turn in to me sort of not setting up Tippy and BIL?

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Aitch · 07/09/2010 21:31

lol at 'who is a fox'. he is a fox, you are so right.

Habbibu · 07/09/2010 21:33

TeeHee. Do you think ears can burn from internet chat?

How are dds, btw, Aitch? Is dd1 at Proper School now?

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Aitch · 07/09/2010 21:35

yep. and she's exhausted... four and a half is too young, five and a half is too old... why did i have a winter baby?

Habbibu · 07/09/2010 21:40

Oh, poor wee soul. She'll prob adjust, though - still early days. DN started school 2 weeks after she turned 4 - crazee English, and all that.

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