Background to this is that a week ago the father of one of my DS's classmates (they are in year 1) died of cancer.
Today teacher calls me to one side at home time and tells me DS was in big trouble and will likely be very upset about it this evening. At break time he told another child (let's call him James) that James's mum and dad were dead. James was v upset and went to playground supervisor who ticked off DS and brought him in to be dealt with by class teacher who also told him off. She told me that it was very "inappropriate playing" and she was quite clearly cross about it still. I was gobsmacked. In the first place DS has never done anything like this before and secondly James is one of his best friends! I told teacher I was very surprised but would speak to DS about it this evening. I then said both my sons (they are twins) had been talking lots in the last week about the child whose dad has died and I wondered whether that was the context for this and whether it was related. She snapped at me that she was "well aware of the context, thank you" and that she expected everyone was just tired at the end of term. I was very upset. This is the second time she has spoken to me about DS behaviour - the other time was about him being pushy in class and shouting out lots. My gut feeling is that she doesn't like him very much which is understandable - she can't like everyone but I wish she did a better job of hiding it. My sister thinks I should raise it with the Deputy Head who is in charge of years 1 and 2 and just check out with her whether some more talking about the dead dad in class would help. Obviously we have been open about this at home when it has come up.
Anyway, I feel upset, partly because I find it v hard being told my DS has been so hateful and partly because I feel he is misunderstood. When I talked to him about it at home he cried for an hour, said another child had started it but that only he got caught, says that everyone hates him, that he hates the teacher and is going to hit her tomorrow and that he wishes he was Harry because Harry is never in trouble. I just wish that as well as telling him off they had sat him down and asked how he was feeling. IS that too much to ask?
Sigh. Any words of wisdom?
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ilovemcdreamy · 02/12/2008 19:13
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