Feel sad for my dd. admits she often has no one to play with :-(

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sunnyshine Sun 11-Nov-12 09:39:33

My dd (yr 3) got upset and admitted that often she has no one to play with at lunchtime. She says she often sits on the friendship circle but no one comes. She is bright, funny and has some great friends but in turn they have other friends too so often gets left out in groups . She says she plays imagination games on her own but I'm not sure how to help ?

dikkertjedap Wed 21-Nov-12 20:40:45

Schools often put the hot school dinners together and packed lunches together. So if her best friend has say packed lunch (hot school dinner) you could consider to give your dd also packed lunch (hot school dinner) so they can (hopefully) sit together, plan what to do after lunch and then play together.

In other countries kids go home for lunch and often a friend comes over for lunch, much better IMO but just does not fit well with the UK system .

sunnyshine Sun 25-Nov-12 23:26:12

Only packed lunches here but classes are staggered do all finish at different times. Am looking into outside clubs but hard when working ft and having other children sad am looking into some things that suit all of us though! Thanks everyone for all your advicesmile

sunnyshine Wed 20-Feb-13 14:05:57

So thought I would give a quick update. My dd was paired up with a new girl recently which turned out by the teachers own admission to be a disaster. First day was fine, then girl and her friend ( already at school) turned in my dd who has been filling up the worry pot to the teacher with the things this girls been saying to her. hmm Was then mentioned again by teacher about how work is fab but she has lost her spark as worried about friendships, so still ongoing.

LivingInAPinkBauble Wed 20-Feb-13 15:25:02

Thinking off the top of my head here with my teacher hat on for some things I have done -
Ethos in class, I do lots in PSHE about inclusion, children are rewarded for including others outside, when choosing partner etc, encouraging children to think positively about others-ie writing nice things about each member of class on paper for wall display, lots of general inclusion activities, class working together for class reward etc etc.
Asking child to pick a buddy, if goes well I give housepoints etc to buddy and child.
Looking at lunchtimes, one school I worked in children were separated depending on whether they were packed lunch/school dinner, meant they were staggered slightly and impacted on playground so changed so all were together.
Another school had 'playground angels', year 6s who looked after children who weren't playing and found someone for them.
I think it does need to have a whole class, preferably school approach, so attitudes change and ethos of inclusion is embedded.
Not sure if any of this makes sense, happy to help further if I can in any way, think brain has seized up for half term!

lljkk Wed 20-Feb-13 16:29:45

DS brings a book to read.
It's what I used to to, too, come to think of it.
After much hard pushing by me the school organised some friendship games so he no longer thinks that everyone on the playground is necessarily hostile to him. But he still doesn't try to play with anyone.

Dozer Wed 20-Feb-13 22:59:14

Sorry things are still not resolved sunnyshine.

Are you content with the way school are handling?

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