My DD has had numerous tiffs with BFFs and fallings out over the last year (she's yr 6) and it shows no sign of stopping. Fortunately there is one girl in her year who she keeps sort of 'going back' to, from primary school, who is younger and not so hormonal and I think easier to get on with. We've had the 'I hate her and I'm cancelling my birthday sleepover' to 'we're fine now, we're BFFs again' in the space of 24 hours...
Thank you running - I think that in some ways the 8yo falling outs are harder. DD can better understand now that it doesn't really matter, and whilst it's not a lot of fun at the time you just have to pick yourself up and carry on.
I know how you feel. My DD is 8 and already there are times when one friend or another decides that my DD shouldn't be involved in a particular game or leaves her out when they are all talking or some other such nonsense. In particular another girl from her class has started walking to school with DD and her best friend. The two of them now walk ahead of my DD and pretty much ignore her. This has really upset DD - so much so, she wanted me to start walking her to school again. It really gets me mad and I feel hurt for her. I have to make a HUGE effort to try and be rational and offer support without wading in and knocking some heads together! I am dreading when she is older, as I know how cruel girls, in particular, can be
DD (11) is in Y7. She's settled into secondary school really well, especially having come from a primary that had fewer children in the whole school than in some classes.
Because we're in a village and the buses haven't run some days this week she's missed a couple of days. So, as girls do, her best friend has gone off with another group and they're now ignoring DD. So, I've had a fairly upset DD to sort out tonight.
She's fine, she's actually quite well liked and has other groups that she mixes with. She just couldn't see past her best friend going off with someone else. As it happens, from chatting to her tonight she has far more in common with a couple of other girls. I've encouraged her to spend time with other friends rather than worry about the others - I think that she can see this. It's just all this BFF shite that seems to be peddled at them makes it seem like the end of the world at the time.
Oh well... I'm sure that once they've got the weekend out of the way it will sort itself out again. Just needed to vent.